To deal with a toxic family member

I wouldn't be honest if I said I didn't have anyone in my family who I'm scared of.

Without labeling: Everytime I go over to their house, they would make it a habbit to give me a 2 hour lecture. Basically guilt tripping me for not interacting with them. Literally judging me for anything I like, say, and do. What makes things worse is the fact I have anxiety and take things way too personally. Additionally, my fiance can't stand up for me without getting a huge mouthful from this person. It's gotten to the point where I believe this person gave me PTSD.

I talked to my mother about this problem. She gave me the advice of avoiding going to this family members house. However I still get bad dreams about them and even hearing the person's name scares me.

They say avoiding toxic people is easy, but what about a toxic family member?

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Comments ( 4 )
  • Cuntsiclestick

    You're not obligated to see this person just because they're a family member. I have a few cousins who are thieves and drug addicts and I haven't seen them in over a decade. My life is better without them.

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  • RoseIsabella

    It's time to go no contact!

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  • FromTheSouthWeirdMan

    You have to withdrawal from them. My mother is the epitome of toxic and my life got alot better when I stopped talking to her. I talk to her maybe twice a year and she still tells me what to do. But in the past she has told me to kill myself, tried to talk my wife into splitting up with me, and giving my dog away when I was in jail for only a week and she has 5 acres. After she got rid of my dog she went out the next week and bought the same kind of dog (pitbull). She always has a problem with everything and wants you to do what she tells you.

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  • ThatOneGuyYouNeverWantToMeet

    Avoid them, being related doesn't entitle them to your love or time.

    & if you can't avoid them, hurt them.

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