Threesome?

Don’t do it simple stop sleeping with this asshat and get a better guy

"If you love me, then you will . x. y. z. . "?

This is what manipulators say, when they actually mean:

Do what I want, because I'm a selfish fucker, and I don't give 2 shits, about what YOU might think.

In the future, if you want to do anything...... do it because you were invited nicely....

NOT because you were coerced, or pressured.

"If you ever loved me you would do this for me" that's manipulative behaviour and a very huge red flag.
A guy said something similar to me once and tried to make me feel guilty if I didn't do something sexual he wanted because that meant I didn't trust him, and then I found out he'd been cheating all along. Typical behaviour from such men.

If someone ever says if you ever loved me youd do.. it's a sign you need to leave them

If you don't want to do it then don't do it. Don't let this guy manipulate you with emotional blackmail.

Why stop with just three?

Obviously your man has stronger or lesser standards or belongs to a different religion then do most of us. I’ve done three before and both scenarios ffm and mf. Both ways are erotic and can be sexually satisfying - but if you really think about it,,,satisfying for whom? It’s hard enough getting two people to find absolute happiness - sexually - in the relationship ... adding a third person reduces the attention the can give one another, so unless you want this in order to experiment “we all are different” I say you should tell your boyfriend he is barking up the wrong tree,,,go beat his meat already

RUN FAR ...RUN FAST AND NEVER LOOK BACK..

He doesn't care about you

Don't do it unless the idea turns you on.

Queen. The rule about bringing someone in your bedroom is you pay them or pick them up as a one night stand never see them again no phone number no fb nothing. It’s a game and they leave the house if they are some how in your house again that’s when you leave. You gotta tell that man you’re in charge and if someone else gonna suck him too they gotta be a one and done xx

Just an update on the post- he has not spoke to me since I set some stipulations. He wanted me to find the third person, and I discussed how someone would feel left out regardless of the situation, and it had to be someone he would be attracted/willing to be the third party. All meanwhile I found out he had a girlfriend- so yeah, glad he hasn’t spoke to me since. My comment was then why didn’t you ask her to be the third wheel, however it was ultimately because he didn’t want to have to explain to her how me and him knew each other. I was good enough in secret but not for others to know. Thank you for all your response and advice! Very helpful!! I knew something was up when this comment came into the picture.

Here are the Dos and Don'ts from my personal experience.

#1 "do" Everyone involved should be someone you trust and are attracted to, but friendships you are willing to let go of. Be very open and upfront, lots of discussion as unromantic as that sounds (that's the trust part). Then be ready for some extreme awkwardness afterward, maybe not right away but within a day or two (that's the willing to let that friend go part). Unless they are a couple in "the lifestyle" it will change your relationship, probably for the worse.
#1 "don't" Don't ever be pressured into it. This is a classic manipulation move- distance yourself from this jackass. I've had booty-calls from Xs, but they never pushed it this far.

Years ago I went on a few dates with a beautiful Puerto Rican woman who'd invited a long time girlfriend of hers (she said they were only friends) to sleep with a few of the guys she'd previously dated. For other reasons we didn't go out but a few times (she was open about looking to get married) but she brought it up to see if I wanted to.

I figured she was really into her "friend" but was presured by societal norms to hook up with a guy.

Please avoid guys that have ''one dick'' rule. If he aint gonna fuck with another man and let you fuck him, he is being an ass and you can find a better man anywhere.

If you want to do it, do it but don't be talked or manipulated into doing anything you don't want to do. I've been in a couple of threesomes and inevitably one person ends up either left out or feeling left out. In one case it was me left out but the male involved felt he was the one left out, probably because the other woman and I could keep going much longer together than he could manage with either, let alone both.

In the instance of a threesome with two other woman, one felt left out because her baby kept waking up in the next room and she had to keep leaving the bed to feed her.

I dunno I actually haven't really had a threesome. You might like it. There's one way to find out.

Do it! He will never forget about you and when he thinks of the best sex he's had you will come up in his mind. He will jerk off to you for months and you can extort him for money.