These are not obligations

First of all, helping someone else is not an obligation. I do not understand why it's so hard to understand that kindness, helping others, etc. are not obligations. Furthermore, I don't understand why it's so hard to understand that things are earned. And once again, being human doesn't suddenly mean you've earned it. Should I be all nicey nicey and help my idiotic bitch sister just because she is a person? No, absolutely not. If you have not earned it, you don't deserve it. I will say this once again. You are not OWED respect, kindness, decency, or anything else. This mentality that we need to care for others simply because they're a person is truly what's loaded beyond belief. And whether you like it or not, not everyone deserves love. This just how things are. I am so tired of these morally superior people telling everyone else what they should and should not do.

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  • You are correct that those things are not personal obligations.

    But, they are things that many different sociaties in the world have learned are necessary for people to survive and improve for the future.

    If no one helps you after you are born. You simply die in a few days. If you want your child to live you have to help them.

    And thus it starts.

    So if you wish to take advantage of what society offers you - you are expected to contribute back to society. Otherwise you die - and relatively quickly at that.

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    • "But, they are things that many different sociaties in the world have learned are necessary for people to survive and improve for the future."

      LOL no. If that was the case, a lot of people would have dropped dead. They are not essentials.

      "If no one helps you after you are born. You simply die in a few days. If you want your child to live you have to help them."

      But in those situations, someone needs to do that since it is their duty. Only then are they obligations, otherwise no.

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  • I guess you don't have to respect them if they lost your respect because of their actions. What has your sister done that made you conclude that even family isn't worth saving?

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    • What hasn't she done?

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    • I can agree with this! People can *lose* your respect. I guess I go in with the opposite approach. I respect a fellow living being until they give me a reason to lose my respect, but it takes a LOT. Do I respect pedophiles? Fuck no.

      I have an elderly relative who has been an alcoholic their entire lives and constantly blames it on their sexual abuse as a child. All the people who abused them have been dead for decades. Other family members have gone through sexual abuse and still took responsibility for their actions, good and bad. This person is now living with my sister, and is apparently a "Born Again Christian" and is constantly talking down to me for not believing the same way she does and even though she is constantly judging other people and throwing stones. My sister caught her with a vodka bottle this week and her immediate reaction was that it was my sister's fault because my sister had had a drink earlier that week and it had "triggered" her drinking.

      So yeah. To me: respect is deserved, but it can be lost if you treat others disrespectfully. I do think that relative does deserve food and shelter, but she's on a quick road to losing all of that. My sister has four children and I told her to put them before an alcoholic traumatizing them with her behavior.

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      • So do pedophiles deserve basic human needs? I mean, since apparently every single human deserves basic human needs, I'm guessing that goes for them too?

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  • You two seriously need to fuck or something

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  • You get what you give.

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  • Without the idea of kindness and decency I’d have eaten you the moment I got hungry.

    So think a bit harder about your philosophical rants and their implications.

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    • I probably am quite tasty, honestly.

      But no, I'd say I'm on the right track with my "philosophical rants".

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      • Those two statements contradict regarding yourself.

        So no, you are not on the right track.

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        • I never once contradicted myself. Right now though, you're being a bit of a hypocrite.

          Who's not on the right track??

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  • Okay so then we don't respect your rudeness so don't expect people to ever help you

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  • I know I'm not deserving of love. You don't have to tell me.

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    • Don't worry, at least the tornadoes will love you.

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  • As a part of a society, you have certain obligations by merely existing in said society. Kindness is one of them. If you wish to avoid societal obligations, live outside of a society, then you are obliged to help yourself.

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    • Wrong. It is not a must that you be kind just because you live in society. I may live in society, but that does not mean I have to be nice to everyone. And again, some things need to be earned anyways. That's just how things are, and how things should be.

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