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I feel like there's so many expectations about sex. Mainly virginity and what people say.
Am I expected to stay a virgin till I'm a supposed adult?
Why do people think of it as something so special and force those beliefs on you?
I get really crazy from being too aroused and it drives me crazy, sometimes.
People have an obsession with policing other people's sex lives. They construct baseless narratives to rationalize those efforts. You're a victim of that.
Then masturbate..dumbass. if you cant figured this shit out then no you shouldn't be having sex kid. While you live in the same house you listen your mother. And get a job instead, so you can stop mooching off her.
Parents are supposed to take care of their kids. Wtf. If you are a kid and you let your parents take care of you, that doesn't mean you are "mooching off" of them. That's BS.
Also "While you live in the same house you listen to your mother." What if your mother is abusive?
I am sick of this toxic BS that kids are supposed to blindly obey their parents while also taking care of themselves.
so youre saying little kids should go out and have sex as soon as they hit puberty, when they don't even know what masturbation is? that's a bit weird bro.
NO! NO!
I am saying that kids should not blindly obey their parents. In fact, I am not even saying kids shouldn't obey their parents. If your parents are telling you good things, you should do those things. But I think we need to stop encouraging the idea of blindly obeying your parents the whole time you live with them. If your parent tells you to do something and it's clearly a stupid thing to do, YOU SHOULD NOT DO IT. I am HORRIFIED that society has gotten to a point where saying "hey, you don't need to do something bad just because a parent told you to." is a controversial thing to say.
What if a kid has a dairy allergy and their parent tells them to eat a piece of cheese? Should the kid eat it because their parent told them to? NO. that is crazy.
People need to do the right thing, even if it's the exact opposite of what their parents want. I am NOT saying don't respect your parents, and I am not saying don't obey your parents when they tell you to do something good, but kids should not be encouraged to idolize their parents and blindly do everything they say as if they are God.
Edit: By the way, if you are under 18 and your mom says "you're too young to have sex. wait until your older" that's a time you should obey your mom. I do NOT think kids should have sex.
17-year-olds are easily old enough to know what they want. They're not kids biologically at that age. 18 is a ridiculously high threshold for such a right.
I'm not saying it's straight up immoral for someone under 18 to have sex. Where I live, 16 year olds can get married. It seems ok to me if two 16-17 year olds get married and have sex (I am personally grossed out by it tbh...but it doesn't seem morally wrong).
But I think it's perfectly reasonable if your parents think you should wait until you are an adult before you have sex. That seems ok to me.
I'd wait until your older and completely understand the risks sociological psychological and emotional damage it can cause if its too soon. Don't make the mistake of having sex just because you want it. Find other ways or someone else to satisfy you. Trust me, it's better than making a mistake and ending up sick or with a baby too soon
i'm the op and no ones gonna read this bc its old lol
why does everyone assume that you aren't gonna use protection?
not everyone is so behind in their education that they don't know basic contraception, and simple knowledge about sex
also for the masturbation part - wtf you been thinking ive been doing? staring at tits till I give up and fall asleep?
I feel educated enough to respond like this because I've gone though a lot of abortion, women and sex-education arguments and I'm glad that my opinions are a lot stronger than 11 months ago.
At least I get to see the mindset of people and how they feel, although I can see that 32 percent of people have other opinions compared to people who commented - probs in protection from backlash for an unimportant topic.
also, yes I believe my mother is abusive. although, I'm not going to make the opposite of what she suggested just because it's coming from her.
I believe education is the main issue with this topic as well as a lot of social barriers.
No ones really assuming that I am a man, and calling me a player or a man whore.
Everyone's just really calling me a slut for being sexually promiscuous.
I think people should understand that sex isn't a bad thing. It's really society that deems it to be horrible for girls these days.
I have yet to decide on what I think about under age sex (with other people of the same age).
It's so you dont get STD's dumped and give em too your true love but in your case don't worry they probably gonna be hoes like yourself aslo and already have STD's by this point too. Don't worry know one would even know anyway you can get away with preteding you didn't know thats what most people do.
I would say wait till your older, because if you have to ask then my answer is wait.
Because before you know if your ready ask yourself four things.
1.
Am I ready to be a parent of a screaming baby, diapers, bottles, no sleep.
2.
Can I support said child.
3.
Am I emotionally ready to have another person my age who wants to be with me forever.
4.
Instead of the above three would I rather be out having fun with friends.
Think about those four questions and it should be a no brainer.
I would tell you no,
But if you still feel you want to remember to use protection
always Carrie some with you,
"It's best to have it and not need it, than to need it and not have it."
because precum can still contain sperm and take all the precautions.
i feel like waiting till youre older is the healthiest. lowest risk of being a slut, and minimal mental damage