Taking my kids to third world country

Is it a good idea to take my kids to a third world country when they're of age to understand, not to show them they're better than anyone, but explain to them how they hit lifes jackpot by being born were they are and explain how they're no different and no more deserving than those people. And tell them be thankful for what you got. And hopefully next time they complain about their situation and how unfair their country is they can remember that they're actually privileged.

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  • Sanara

    Consider that there may actually be real danger to the kids, like diseases or high crime rate

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    • SkullsNRoses

      Agreed, when I was 12 a friend of a friend moved to India and was raped by a taxi driver on the first day. Another girl at my school visited relatives in a 3rd world country and witnessed a bombing (thankfully she was unharmed.)

      I’m all for teaching young people perspective and gratitude for their privileges but I think there are much safer ways of doing so. For instance when I was in secondary school a church group ran a weekend camp where we lived as though we were in a slum for a few days to make us aware of the first world luxuries we take for granted.

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  • Whatintarnation

    That sounds like an excellent idea. I remember the first time I went to Mexico and saw absolute poverty. It's no wonder they risk their lives to come to the U.S.

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    • hauntedbysandwiches

      Mexico is dangerous though I would never take anyone there. Maybe go to a safe third world country

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      • Whatintarnation

        Are there safe third world countries? Not trying to be smart just seems if you travel to other countries than the West you're taking your chances. Even certain parts of the U.S. and Europe are plenty dangerous.

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      • Definitely wouldnt go to Mexico

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  • Meatballsandwich

    Sounds fair. People in my country are constantly complaining over how everything sucks here. They don't know what they're talking about.

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    • 77%-85% of the world is thirdworld isnt that nuts? We lucky

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    • hauntedbysandwiches

      America? If you're referring to America, America is a third world country compared to all first world countries out there

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      • Before covid it had the highest wages in the world. If you have a trade the USA pays better than any country, plumbers, truck drivers, doctors, lawyers, its hard to find a trade that pays better somewhere other than the USA. I dont know what standard you use to claim its a third world country. You should travel.

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      • Meatballsandwich

        No I was talking about Sweden. People here seem to live in denial of how great they actually have it. People keep bitching over how crap everything supposedly is, how much they want to leave this place, how much better everyone else is than us at everything, etc. It's irritating, to say the least.

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        • It bothers me and I dont want my kids to complain about their country when their country is literally atleast top 5 in almost everything. Are their things USA could do better? Sure. But you definitely need to have perspective.

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        • olderdude-xx

          That's true everywhere in the world with higher standards of living.

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          • Meatballsandwich

            Hmm, wonder why that is the case.

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            • olderdude-xx

              Because they have never really seen the comparison.

              When I was in the US Navy and our ship visited many countries I was the typical obnoxious American tourist at first. Every issue I saw my answer was: "well in American here is how we solved that."

              Then I visited Haiti... for 2 days. I saw poverty and things for which there was no American answer for. I was literally mentally stunned, and I went into automatic operation while I though about it for a week or two.

              Thats when I realized that America did not have all the answers - and that any real solution had to fit the culture of the place; and most of my previous "American" solutions would not work where I suggested them because of cultural differences.

              Over the next few years I learned a lot more about the countries I visited while in the US Navy. I was also routinely invited to stay with a family because I was seriously interested in their perspective of the world and not trying to apply what worked in America to their country.

              Once you really see the difference... by going to other places in the world and dealing with the people who live there - then you understand how special the more advanced countries are.

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  • darefu

    We have a tendency to judge how bad people have it in third world countries by our spoiled standards.

    I've lived in a couple of what I prefer to call 2nd world and have visited a couple 3rd. I've noticed a lot of them have happy and sad times based on their way of life and their standards. They may actually be enjoying life more than us 1st world spoiled brats.

    You want to visit a 3rd world that's truely 3rd go to your city of LA or Chicago. There you find people and a way of life living in dirt without food or shelter surrounded by the spoiled people. They know or think they have it bad because they are surrounded by the spoiled world.

    The programs you have designed to help them actually are more designed to keep them there.

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    • BleedingPain

      Honestly I would not recommend visiting the crime ridden parts of chicago, not because they are dangerous but because they are relatively safe during the day and there is noting to do there. Subsequently you would just end up visiting the cooler and even safer parts of chicago which would be a counterproductive teaching moment.

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      • darefu

        I really wasn't implying the crime ridden part although one and the same as the poor and homeless areas.

        Personally I would not recommend taking kids to any high crime areas in any country. I thought we were taking about places where people don't have all the luxuries of life that 1st world countries have.

        Are you trying to say high crime is what makes an area 3rd world? I'd reverse it and say third world conditions are what leads to high crime. But even that is not always true.
        My point was some poor 3rd world countries aren't necessarily un-happy places unless you apply 1st world standards.

        You have to have something to compare it to. If nobody has a car or smart phone you really don't know how to miss it.

        By the way it's been a while since I've been to Chicago but do the homeless and hungry go away also during the day. They only bring the shelters and feeding places out at night. Where do they go. Damn fakers they have a good life and luxury house during the day to go to.

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        • BleedingPain

          The homeless and hungry are still active during the day in the Loop, but my understanding is that when you are poor and living in a shabby part of town, crime rates will also follow. I dont feel unsafe driving through west Garfield park and Austin during the day (I often do to avoid traffic) but those places are pitiful with the lowest life expectancy rates in chicago and high crime rates.

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  • DingusKhan

    Are you thinking about selling one of them? You may get.a better deal locally, although the travel expense would make a nice tax deduction!

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  • The fact that other people have it worse doesn't mean that problems in "first world" nations such as the US or whatever aren't legitimate. Imagine telling someone who has stepped on a rusted nail to just "get over it" because they at least have a leg still.

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    • I agree to an extent. I complain about the direction the country is going in all the time. I'm talking about kids who think that they have it so bad for not getting the newest Xbox or having to work their way up in this world when the majority of the world doesnt even have a toilet in their house or air conditioning.

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  • bigbudchonger

    This is like asking if you should take your kids to the most deprived crime ridden place to give them some perspective. No its not a good idea people stay away from those kinds of places for a reason.

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    • olderdude-xx

      Many of those places do not have unusual crime rates.

      I've been to a few of them...

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      • bigbudchonger

        Third world countries? I doubt it. (Not that you've been there but the crime rate bit).

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        • olderdude-xx

          Do the research. Some countries have bad crime rates; others do not.

          The crime rate in America in many areas is worse than a number of 3rd world counties.

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          • bigbudchonger

            Yeah, in delapidated low income areas. Overall, per country, third world crime rates are much higher.

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  • SwickDinging

    People in third world countries are not a human zoo. I think doing this would send completely the wrong message to your children. It sounds, rather ironically, like something a very privileged and out of touch person would do.

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    • May I ask why you believe that would send the wrong message to my kids? By your comment it sounds that you are assuming I am looking down on those people and thinking that I am superior to them.

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  • fatok

    I spent a couple decades living in third world countries. It made me appreciate what we have in America. It disgusts me how so many feel entitled in America for granted. Just make sure the country you are bringing your family to is politically stable

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    • I grew up middleclass here in America. I was very entitled as a teenager. My parents kicked me out at 17. For 5 years I lived without air conditioning, I had to flush the toilet with a bucket of water, had to shower in a sink with no heat in that room in the winter. Always drove cars that looked like they fell from the sky. Went hungry often. It completely changed my outlook on the world for the better. Im much happier now. I wish their was a way to simulate something like that for my kids without being an asshole and forcing it on them.

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  • olderdude-xx

    Its a good idea... in fact you should do such trips routinely.

    What would be more impactful. Start to sponsor a child - say though World Vision (the class act of the child sponsoring agencies in the USA) - and then take your children to visit that child and the country periodically as over 15 years or so.

    You can show how a little charity (for your home country) can make a huge impact in other parts of the world.

    I sponsored a child for about 15 years until they got married recently (no longer eligible for sponsorship once married). It was very meaningful. The letters and information that was shared are in one of my personal "treasures" boxes in the basement.

    I believe that you will learn as much as your children.

    Go for it!

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    • Thats a good idea to sponsor a child I never thought about that. Maybe we could go meet them one day also. Hell even adopt them.

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      • olderdude-xx

        Precisely about being able to meet them. They likely don't need adoption, and I'm not sure if World Vision and the other organizations support that. Their goals are to teach self sufficiency.

        In my case I donated money to be used for a college education if the person I sponsored wanted that. But, apparently not.

        Due to some health issues I was never in a position to visit them - but, World Vision encourages that after a few years.

        Your children could be pen palls with them (lots of letters; and now it can be done via email or message system in most countries).

        I wish you and your family well with this,

        ps: The biggest issue that World Vision and similar organizations have is that people often sponsor a young child (3-5) and then stop after a few years.

        I knew up front that it was to me at least a 15 year commitment - and I kept that. That child's long term future will be much better with a dedicated constant sponsor who cares...

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        • I know its up to whoever is donating but how much does it normally cost to make a difference

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          • olderdude-xx

            It actually cost very little to provide basic medical, food, and school assistance ($15-20/month). I started with that during my initial years and then pretty much doubled it for the rest of my 15+ years of support for the child I sponsored, with occasional other targeted gifts.

            They have programs where you can donate for their birthday and certain major holidays, or to assist with programs to help people set up businesses,etc.

            Donating more helps (and often is used to continue to help children who's initial sponsor stopped donating).

            World vision will work with you if you want to set up a higher education fund for a child (college or technical training).

            I cannot speak about how well the other organizations do; but, World Vision operates in more countries around the world for some very good reasons (and most of the other organizations are not allowed or have been kicked out of certain countries).

            Why not go to their site and look at the options available... and what the typical asking donation is. I did annual donations as I'm not a fan of monthly (world vision will set up monthly, quarterly, or annual).

            I suggest that you get your Children involved in talking about the possibilities and options - and in the fact that this needs to be a long term commitment to assist the child grow up having a better life and to be able to have a better future. At the same time they can learn a lot about a specific country and its culture and history; and develop a pen pal relationship too.

            Let them decide which child in which country your family wishes to sponsor.

            ps: Edited to add: Call World Vision and discuss being able to visit the child - and at what points in their life would be best for that. They work with people to set up occasional visits.

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  • hauntedbysandwiches

    Definitely not

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  • kelili

    This is absolutely ridiculous. You don't have to travel to a third country to show your children that there are less fortunate people. In all countries there are no matter where you live. So why not start home? Show them the homeless people, the drug addicts, the prostitutes. Or there are none of those where you live?
    And in those third world countries there are people who are richer than you.

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    • No its not at all the same. People who stay homeless in America usually do so because of mental issues and drug issues. Not because of a lack of opportunity and resources. I want to show him where there is no hope to get out of poverty. There is no jobs that pay over a dollar a day. Where there isnt access to plumbing and electricity. And then explain to him the majority of people on earth live like this.

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      • kelili

        You should probably learn more about your country. The third world countries usually have lots of resources. Do not forget to teach them about the long terms effect of colonialism so that they get the true picture of how the world is like it is and that there are third world countries. But first learn it yourself and open your eyes to the reality of what happens to people who have less resources and opportunities around you.

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  • DADNSCAL

    You don’t have to go far. I took my kids to Tijuana to show them what poverty is. They came back appreciating what they had.

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  • 12345678912

    I was talking to a native of where i live yesterday and he pissed me off. Going on about how terrible hus country is .....
    I said to him that he has it better than the US when it comes to health care and homelessness. He would not believe me.This is common many people here believe the US and many other countries are so much better. But the people saying this have never lived outside their own country.
    This is a problem, taking your kids to live in another country will undoubtedly benefit them. Most likely they will appreciate what the US has when they return and appreciate it.
    Be careful where you go. You don't need to go to a third world country. Take them to a rural part of a modern European country, they will see a new culture, learn a new language and most likely be grateful for what the US has and in relative safety. Or they could fall in love with the place and not want to leave. A great experience for you all either way.

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  • jethro

    Go to L.A. or San Francisco. Almost as much a third world location as any other place in the world.

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    • BleedingPain

      Those are luxurious 3rd world cities. People are poor but live in style.

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      • jethro

        No the vagrants poop on the sidewalks there. SF has over 3000 calls a day to clean up feces off of the sidewalks. LA has more rats than New Delhi. Since California decriminalized public drug use and you don't get arrested if you shoplift under a thousand dollars of goods they have more vagrants in those two cities than the rest of the US states combined. 65% of the US vagrants now live in California because the State gives them everything.

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        • BleedingPain

          Mayhaps your right. But overall what I mean is that when you look at places like djibouti, or some truely under developed country, not only does it smell like shit, it looks like shit too. At least SF looks well developed. (Stinky but atill developed)

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