Shouldnt allow minors

Im sure some responses to this post may be "men need to learn self control" and "they need to not look". I personally dont understand why parents allow their minor daughter to dress revealing. Something I started noticing at walmart is when I see a minor girl dressed inappropriately I look around at the men in the area and I notice many of them take a peak at her. Not only is it inappropriate for a minor to dress this way in public it enacts a hormonal response in men when woman dress this way. On one hand society has agreed its wrong to sexualize minors but then we allow them to be sexualized. Women have never been a man and understand the automatic response that happens when women are dressed in basically lingerie.

I think this is contributing to degenerate behaviors in society. Minors should not be allowed to dress this way by their parents.
I'm not victim blaming the minor for degenerate behaviors. But this is inappropriate and I dont see anything good that comes out of parents allowing this.

Is It Normal?
Help us keep this site organized and clean. Thanks!
[ Report Post ]
Comments ( 23 ) Sort: best | oldest
  • I agree with you.
    In theory, women should be able to dress however they want. In the same vein we shouldn't have to have locks on or doors. But the fact is there are lunatics out there. Don't encourage them.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
      -
    • Had the same argument with someone who hated the idea of them arming themself. If it was a perfect world, sure arming yourself is paranoid. The world isnt perfect though and small women can easily be overpowered. Guns are the great equalizer, as long as you can pull a 3 pound trigger you can take the largest of opponents on.

      Comment Hidden ( show )
    • This. We can't control the actions of others, but we can try to avoid certain situations to the best of our abilities (not trying to victim blame, just suggesting that there are certain things it's a good idea to really think about the possible implications of). Is it unfair? Absolutely, but it's unfortunately the way it goes, and there's nothing that can be done about it other than trying to be proactive on our part.

      Comment Hidden ( show )
  • The men are just discreetly looking, they're not doing any harm. No harm at all is caused in this scenario.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
      -
    • We tell people not to sexualize them but then we allow minors to dress in a way that creates a biological response in men making men sexualize them. Then the grown adult that has that response is more inclined now to indulge in what society deems degenerate behavior. Maybe some of these people would not have ever started exhibiting this behavior if minors did not dress this way. Its like telling people not to drink and then advertising alcohol everywhere.

      Comment Hidden ( show )
        -
      • It's only a small minority of men (ie. perverts) who would act on those feelings, the majority wouldn't. And trying to solve this problem by focusing on the victims is basically saying that it's their fault for being harrassed because they dressed a certain way. It's up to the men to control themselves, there's absolutely no excuse for them harrassing anybody, it doesn't matter if the victim is stark naked and twerking. People shouldn't have to inhibit their fashion, how they want to express themselves, just because a couple of perverts can't control themselves.

        Comment Hidden ( show )
          -
        • As a father I dont want men to even look at my daughter in that way when she is too young. I would never blame a minor for being assaulted nor am I making excuses for men. You used the example "it shouldnt matter if they were stark naked twerking infront of men". I agree it doesnt make it ok for men to do this but I also think having minors stark naked and twerking is a terrible idea. I dont think its ok for my daughter to go around arousing men. The fact that she's arousing men at that age seems bad enough without the other thing happening.

          Comment Hidden ( show )
            -
          • I agree that people should wear sensible clothing, but even a normal fitting tank top and shorts can be “revealing” depending on the body type, and if you live somewhere that gets 90+ degrees that would not be odd for a teenager to wear in a casual setting like Walmart.
            Besides some girls develop in a way that even a big sweatshirt isn’t going to stop guys from looking. Instead of teaching her to live in fear of men and ashamed of her body, why not teach her how to defend herself from the creeps.

            Comment Hidden ( show )
          • Ok, fair enough. Although you did say in the description that you're sure some of the responses will say that men need to learn self-control, but then you never said that you agreed with that. You just didn't say any more, so it seemed like you were defending men alright. Even if you never mentioned that though, focusing only on what the victims wear, while not even mentioning the perverts who assault them, does give the impression that it's the victims who are to blame. And people who do blame the victims, and sympathise with the attackers, no doubt hold similar opinions to you on what girls wear. So in future you should really mention that you're not making excuses for the attackers then, in order to distance yourself from those people.

            Yeah of course I get that you wouldn't want anyone viewing her like that, that'd be disgusting to you, you're her dad after all. Still though, I don't think there's anything wrong with just looking at someone, so long as it's discreet.

            Comment Hidden ( show )
              -
            • Our fundamental disagreement in my opinion is when you say "The men are just discreetly looking, they're not doing any harm" I do not share that opinion. I dont think its ok for men to look at minors that way or for minors to dress in a provocative way. They should not be viewed in a sexual way until they're the age that they're available.

              Comment Hidden ( show )
  • 100% sounds inappropriate to dress like that.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
  • Well if they are going to flaunt it, I'm going to look at it.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
  • I totally agree. My granddaughter started to dress like that and I put a stop to it, because I noticed lecherous old pedos leering at her when we went out.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
      -
    • Would you feel the same way about women objectifying your grandson?

      Comment Hidden ( show )
        -
      • I worry about my son around other men more than women. Women are statistically less likely to kidnap and rape a child.

        Comment Hidden ( show )
          -
        • While statistics are important, they don't justify double standards. As a man, I would never engage in maladaptive practices. Therefore, I don't like when my gender gets all lumped in.

          Comment Hidden ( show )
  • I fully agree.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
  • I do agree with the whole issue of age appropriate dressing and such like.

    But you saw the way they dressed, therefore you did exactly what you accuse others of doing.

    You cannot state with any authority that either a man or woman thinks a certain way when faced with images of this kind.

    But i still agree that its wrong for a parent to permit to allow or encourage minors to dress in a way that might encourage others to treat or think of them being anything other than their natural age.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
  • First of all, there's nothing I hate more than overprotective parents, so you already lost me there.

    Secondly, why are you bringing gender into this? Are you ok with women objectifying or even raping an underage boy?

    Comment Hidden ( show )
      -
    • Again no im not ok with women doing this to my son but women are not as big of a threat. Look at rape statistics. The percentage of women kidnapping and raping a child is nearly 0%. I would worry about him being in a day care perhaps but not at the store. Also he doesnt dress in lingerie type clothing.

      I do however worry about him around men.

      Comment Hidden ( show )
        -
      • So, you worry about your son being around men, but you're ok with your daughter being around women?

        There's nothing more unjust than sexism against men.

        Comment Hidden ( show )
  • Many share my opinion and this is why in my country many schools have dress codes. Modest clothes are fine. Jeans and shirt will do. But not booty shorts and belly shirts with cleavage exposed.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
Add A Comment