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I broke up with my ex for a reason. They are bad news. Despite this when someone new comes along and they tailed after them I did nothing. My best friend noticed this and told me to warn this poor new soul to stay away from my horrible ex. Who everyone who already know them realize they are bad news. Should I warn this person?
| No stay out of it | 17 | |
| Yes | 7 | |
| Ask someone else to | 0 |
if he finds out you are fucking with him like that and he kills you, ill just laugh my ass off. have a nice life.
Why would my ex kill me? They are not a moron. I also didn't specify their gender.
it may be against the law to specify gender where you live , i would be careful in Canada or California
It's not a law. Some crazy SJWs/liberals are trying to make speech a crime.
They are insane and should be ignored.
California is the devil's state.
Also pretty much making the passing of your HIV legal
http://www.foxnews. com/politics/2017/10/09/new-california-law-allows-jail-time-for-using-wrong-gender-pronoun-sponsor-denies-that-would-happen.html
https://www.nbcnews. com/feature/nbc-out/new-california-law-reduces-penalty-knowingly-exposing-someone-hiv-n809416
Abusers of any kind are skilled at manipulation, so even if you were to warn any potential partners of his/hers, they're not going to listen and the abuser will just convince them that you're a jealous ex that wont leave them alone. The manipulation is even worse if the abuser is beautiful/handsome, because ignorant people trust looks over character until they learn better.
What you should do is count your blessings. Dating crazy people isn't easy, and escaping with your sanity and safety is very lucky. Just let the new partner they catch go through the motions, eventually they will see how terrible this person is after a few months and hopefully end the relationship. If you get involved, it'll only be bad for you.
If I knew why they were "bad news" then I'd vote.
Idk enough to say whether you should warn people, but if they were say, abusive, or into drugs or criminal activity, then I think you should warn others.
Well it depends. Is your ex just a "harmless" jerk? Then stay out of it, this is his life. Is he an abuser? Then yes, you should warn other people and report any episodes of abuse that you can think of to the police. If you don't think the other person is in danger, then, unless they are also an acquaintance of yours, I don't think it would be wise to interfere.
Seems to me it depends on why you think your ex is "bad news", and what your motivation is.
If you just want to get revenge on the ex by steering new people away from them, that's not a good reason to say something.
If he is unable to hear "no" when it comes to sex, or if he steals, habitually lies, or does other really scummy things, then it seems to me it would be friendly thing to say to the new person, "Look, I'm not telling you to stay away from ____, but we used to be together, and this is what happened to me..." If you're honest and avoid over-dramatizing, I see nothing wrong with this.
Some people deliberately avoid warning new people about those who are known to be "bad news" because they enjoy watching the inevitable drama unfold. They're the sort of people who say nothing when strangers to the neighborhood walk close to the yard with the vicious dog lurking under the porch. It's immature and just not a very friendly thing to do.
I wish I had an answer for your query, but unfortunately I don't despite the fact that I have wondered the same thing about my ex.