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I'm a petite fair skinned girl, after daylight savings time it got dark when I left work. I work in a city with a lot of blacks and I feel scared especially waiting for the bus. There are a lot of drug addicts and homeless in the area. Some flirting with me in an aggresive way. Most of the time there's other ppl at the stop but sometimes I'm alone.
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Ok. Every time I see this question I ask the same things: would you have the right state of mind to draw the weapon and then shoot someone? If you happen to hit them, could you live with the fact that you may kill or maim them? Presuming carrying is legal in your state, if you decide to do it, get training from a certified instructor - and I don’t mean a few hours of training to get your carry permit. You need to develop muscle memory so how you react becomes a reflex, like breathing. Meanwhile, see if a security guard or guy in your office is willing to walk you to the bus or start by carrying mace and taking women’s self-defense courses. Finally, consider if some of your concerns are rational and not rooted in repressed bigotry. I worked with “a lot of blacks” who had my back in very bad situations.
Blacks have a very high rate of crime, if she is in a bad area she has a valid concern. No need to call people bigots in that situation.
I never called her a bigot my friend. Feel free to reread the comment a little more carefully or think what you will.
As a former military policeman I know about crime statistics, including those published by non-military sources and organizations.
You literally stated 'Finally, consider if some of your concerns are rational and not rooted in repressed bigotry'. Meaning that you're suggesting she's a bigot and she's unaware of this.
(I should point out however that this is still a valid point. Blacks don't always equal crime)
You could spend hundreds of dollars and countless hours buying a gun, taking classes, learning how to use it, practicing with it, and getting the license or permit necessary to carry it..then have to worry about making a split second, life or death decision with it, hope it doesn't get used against you, and more dollars and hours defending your choice to use it if it comes to that, and eve if there are no legal consequences you then have to deal with the trauma of knowing you shot(and killed?) somebody...
...or you can buy some mace for a few bucks, take a minute to read the instructions, and be just as safe as - if not more safe than - you would be with a gun.
Get a taser and pepper spray instead. It's much safer than having a gun and not as big a deal if it gets stolen.
Maybe see if another coworker can walk with you. Carry mace or learn karate but don't get a gun , because their are too many laws that protect the assailant more than the victim.Case and point, a guy on the east coast got life for shooting armed teenagers who broke into his home.
To carry a gun daily could be difficult. But when at home or traveling it is very comforting.
And also depending on the country you live in.
If you do, know exactly how to use it. You also need to figure out if you can handle shooting an actual person. No point getting a gun if you're completely inexperienced with it.
Yes, your the responsible for your own safety. Take a simple carry conceal coarse in your area. When I took it, it was around 100 bucks. They'll teach you gun safety and proper self defense. Then you can get your permit to carry a gun.
Don't pull a weapon unless you are prepared to use it. Don't let you're attacker see it. My personal preference is a good sharp knife. But no, unless you can kill someone, no. Don't carry a weapon unless you are going to use it.
That said, pepper spreay, deodorant, wd40, paint, whatever floats your boat. That is the way to go, you don't have to live with murder and you will immobilize your attacker
git a stun gun instead
theyre cheap and not a huge legal hassle like shootin someone is
get your concealed carry permit. i have had women tell me they became cops just so they could carry a gun out of fear. it didnt take long and they were ex cops . they wind up killing innocent people.
What's the hype over concealed carry vs. open carry?
Just curious. I'm a gun owner and never cared to get a concealed permit (my state allows open carry without a permit)
my state is open carry , i think concealed carry is more advantageous in self defense. why because if i open carry, they are shooting first.
That's a fair point. I guess its validity would vary by location though. Here where I live, it's so common to carry that you'd be a real fool to start shooting. It happens, of course, but commonly between people who know each other or know there's no other guns around.
its really funny , wal-mart can post a sign saying no guns allowed but the police cant enforce it because its illegal to enforce it. so i see women open carry all the time inside Walmart . they look like gay women so i guess they are out hunting male rapists at walmart .
Funniest thing I saw was at the flea market (lots of private party gun sales there)...old man sitting at the food court with his newly bought shotgun laid across the table, enjoying an ice cream cone. People walking by, families all having lunch in the nearby booths, just a normal day. It was magical.
I personally love guns and I like how open they are here. I moved here to KY from NY where you NEVER see guns in public and even at home people who have them keep them locked away, sales are very limited...just rare to see guns at all. I like seeing people strapped at the grocery store although it was quite a culture shock at first even being very into guns myself.
Well, I don't know what the social climate is like where you are (maybe someowhere in the US)? In the UK there are places where we girls don't always feel safe for whatever reason, but guns aren't legal for citizens to buy here. We use rape alarms or pepper spray.
Fearing someone just because they're black seems racist to me, but that's probably because there aren't the same social tensions between people of different colours in the UK as in the US. Most black people I know in UK are very much like white people and occupy the same social spheres. People who hate black people are considered Evil - it is a mainly unmotivated hatred. I imagine that if where you are, white and black people constitute separate communities that don't mix and there's known animosity between them, then there might be good reason to fear black men after dark in a dodgy area if you're white and a vulnerable profile of person.
You don't need a gun though, I don't think. Unless you're trained to use it, how can you be sure you won't kill someone instead of just deterring them? Even if you were trained, 'fight or flight' is a powerful thing and just takes over. Maybe go for pepper spray?
Wow, you must be some upper class snob to not realise that the white and black communities don't mix. Go out and count how many whites and blacks there are. In a city centre you'll probably get an even enough ratio but go to a small town or the suburbs and there's a big difference.
I haven't seen you round here much, Takuto. Are you new?
Very British kind of bating tactic, that - accusing someone implicitly or explicitly of being a filthy rich snobby Tory. If all you wanted was to get a rise out of me I'm not about to defend myself as a non-snob - but to say that I was raised in a small village. There were fewer non-white people there than in my university cities to be sure, but the two BME pupils at my local primary school were popular enough kids. We were practically bombarded with anti-racism morals - and I like to think it did us some good! Certainly, racism was treated as a 'capital crime' at school. To be honest, the racism I've seen is worse in the cities. I know there are places in the UK where many people are mistrusting of Pakistani and Polish people, perhaps because many live within their own sub-communities, work for cheap and undercut British workers economically, and don't participate in British life and culture. But that is not all of them. In any case, most black people I've known from the UK are culturally similar to me and hang out with white people. Maybe because most of them have lived here for at least one generation and have assimilated; maybe because of the Commonwealth. Who knows? It feels awkward even speaking of 'them' and 'us'. I'm not living in the UK at the moment; I'm in mainland Europe, and the difference in the way black people are treated here is noticeable. Here, black people and white people associate far less, and I can actually see more reasons for interracial conflict than in the UK.
By all means have a snoop around my comment history if you want to know any more about my life...
I've been here around 8 months I think.
I'd like to point out that I wouldn't have called you a snob if I had taken into account the possibility of us having totally different backgrounds. Smaller communities have better morals than large cities where racism is abundant. Hate crimes are a big thing but, thankfully, conferences are up and running so heads of police and charities can work together to make tackling racism easier.
I still believe you underestimate the amount of crimes motivated by racism.
Listen sweetie, in the U.S. they sell boxes of ammunition like candy bars. Hand guns are as ubiquitous as black umbrellas. Your blithering about Euopean civil society is absolutely such a naive response to American urban jungles that we can only conclude you are pathologically aloof.
Listen and learn. Then feel the sense of relief that the trouble makers were all deported from England in the 1700s. We're still across the pond making trouble. Hitler's big mistake was that he never realized American cities operate under low level military conflict all the time. Don't be dumb like Hitler was.
Wow Godwin's law came into play pretty bloody quickly there, didn't it? What raw nerve of yours did I just touch? Or are you having a bad day? I might be an English speaker, but that doesn't make my country a sort of cultural 'colony' of the US. We don't know everything about how you live, and I personally wouldn't dare presume to be able to separate the Hollywood from the reality. So I for one just talk about what I know.
Is it really such a 'pathology' then that I respond to America with Europe? Can you respond to Europe with anything but America, and other places you might have lived?