Sex too soon?

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So I met this guy 3 months ago at a rave, we've been texting all day every day since then. I send him my writing, he tells me his ideas - pretty personal stuff. He'd say things to me like 'you're the most interesting girl I know' and get jealous when I mentioned other guys. Yet we never met up - it was all a bit weird. Until last night. We met up in my area of the city we live in, had some drinks, made out a lot, he missed his train home and stayed over at mine. He wanted to have sex, but I said I was worried it would make things complicated so I gave him some hand love instead and we went to sleep. This morning we had sex - it kinda just happened, I don't know. Afterwards we hung for a couple hours spooning and chatting, then he got a cab home. He whatsapped me a couple hours later making the same kind of chat we always make on a day to day basis.

So my question is, have I fucked it by having sex with him so soon? I know he's not boyfriend material, but I do like him and I'd like to have a kind of fuck buddy thing going on with him, but I don't want him to think "been there, done that" as he is very attractive and I'm sure he finds it easy to get sex. We've been talking for such a long time that I guess I felt like he'd gotten to know and like me enough as a person, but now I'm worried we won't see each other again. On whatsapp we were talking about how many people we've had sex with and he saidd 'tbh though I get bored of meaningless sex' - I didn't press him as I didn't know if he meant he is bored of nights like last night (or this morning rather) or if he is currently looking for more than just meaningless sex.

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  • DubstepismyMJ
    9 years ago

    Why do you care if it was too soon? You just wanted a fuck buddy right ?

    What clearly have you fucked up? A relationship? When you clearly say "he's not boyfriend material". So who the fuck cares?

    Jeez its like you don't know what you want.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      Quote: I do like him and I'd like to have a kind of fuck buddy thing going on with him, but I don't want him to think "been there, done that"

      D'you wanna read the story before you leave some sarcastic unhelpful comment?

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      • DubstepismyMJ
        9 years ago

        there is nothing sarcastic about what I said, believe it or not.
        what exactly do you want help on?

        because the answer to your question "have I fucked it by having sex with him so soon?"
        is no.
        no because there was nothing to fuck up.
        There was nothing to fuck up because you don't even want a relationship, you want a fuck buddy.
        fucking too soon is irrelevant if he wants you to be fuck buddy's or not.

        so please put up smarter questions. honestly.

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  • tripw7
    9 years ago

    Hey, you are just fine. You have him what you needed and he accepted. Very nice. You don't or shouldn't worry about if he didn't appreciate it. You appreciated it. That is what is important. Keep him interested with the same.

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  • green_boogers
    9 years ago

    Sounds like cultural expectations are haunting you even though they don't apply to your needs. Many girls like fuck buddies. You are fine. If he becomes boring, find a more interesting fuck buddy.

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  • mike78
    9 years ago

    Everything is fine just don't feel guilty. It will have influence on your behaviour and won't let you feel relaxed.
    It happened ... that's it! Don't think about how is he thinking about you!? This point of view ruins your relationship for sure.

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  • mrkrule
    9 years ago

    You sound like you had a good time. It's not a big deal.

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  • Nokiot9
    9 years ago

    Keep him interested. Try new positions, places, and toys. And I'd make it clear to him exactly what kind of relationship you are seeking.

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