Right wingers seem to have an issue with both feminine men and trans women

I feel that way. If you are gay it doesn't bother me if you're a little feminine but if you are straight and you do that thing where the end of every sentence you make sounds like a question it gets on my nerves. But it's not like I care enough to think about it that much. I just say in my head "god help us its another one" and I move on.

Speak for yourself brother, I'm a right winger and I love feminine men.

I would imagine they are concerned with situations like the recent one involving a naked man (who claimed to be a woman) parading around a female-only area in Los Angeles spa exposing his genitals to women and girls.

There are crazies on all sides... I'd be interested in where you got all of this information from.

They just want men to be men and women to be women, it’s not that confusing

You obviously haven't paid attention to the anti gay lobbying in many countries, from criminalizing homosexuality to making it legal to refuse them service pr fire them. But sure, no one cares. You just stay in your fantasy land.

Feminization of men and transgenders are both considered bad in certain major religions, so that likely has something to do with it.

In my experience, right wingers don't hate feminine men, they just hate men being feminized and the issues of the feminization of men and transgender women are separate issues.

As I said, most on the right don't care if a man chooses to act feminine. What they have an issue with is men being feminized. What that means is that many men are being socially pressured to be more feminine. They're told that any form of masculinity is evil. Boys are treated like defective girls. They don't hate men that choose to be feminine, they just hate masculinity being villainized.

People on the right also generally don't hate transgender people. They disagree with the idea of transgenderism, but they don't hate those who are transgender. Most people on the right believe that a man is a man is a man and a woman is a woman is a woman. They believe that just because someone thinks or feels that they're the opposite gender or wants to be the opposite gender, that doesn't mean that they are. It is their opinion that those who believe that they are the opposite gender have a mental disorder and require treatment and they don't believe that having an operation to make you more like the opposite gender is an effective form of treatment, nor is taking hormones.

The only people that 'obsess' over these issues are leftists that use the issues in a way to smear those they hate. Done purely for political purposes. And I imagine a 'right-winger' to you is anyone that disagrees with you.

So then why is it that a lot of right wing media has obsessed over the notion of men being feminized and women being masculinized? Or condoning mocking men for being feminine? I never said it's wrong to like traditional gender roles, I was pointing out that conservatives have a derogatory attitude toward both feminine men and trans women a lot of the time, meaning that it's not possible for feminine males to be okay in their eyes. Look at how common it's been for parents to deny boys who develop a interest in dressing up or playing with dolls. I also never said anything about convincing men to be feminine. Femboys are naturally feminine because that's just how they're inclined. They're often gay too.

Why do they complain about it then? Why is it a big deal to many people for boys to play with dolls?

Yes they do. Masculine and feminine norms are harmful.

Ironically, your dismissal of children not fitting gender norms is part of what influences kids being considered transgender. Boys who like wearing dresses for instance, can't just be gender non conforming, they're now being assumed to be transgender.

Gender isn't real. What solid reality is there to the idea that only men should be into cars and building and the only women should wear lipstick and dresses?

"I ignored it because it's not relevant to what I wanted to address. I don't care about TERFS."

This isn't about you though, it's about trends in right wing media. Conservatives have been giving credit and praise to TERFs for their anti trans rhetoric, despite the fact that TERF's say gender norms are bad and designed to oppress women. They're only giving them platforms because they hate trans people.

It doesn't matter how many children do or don't play with dolls. The point is that SOME boys do, as are some girls masculine. Gender norms are forced on many people they don't fit, gender isn't even a real thing, unlike sex.

"Boys not playing with dolls or putting on make up IS how boys want to be generally." Yeah, not boys who are more feminine though. It's a real thing that has always existed. It's funny that you say no one cares about males being feminine, then you outright call femininity in males bad. Your lack of self awareness is staggering.

Actually it doesn't because like I said, it's generally femininity that men are being discouraged from. I noticed you completely ignored the very common example of parents not letting their sons play with dolls and makeup because they associate femininity in men bad, or that it means they're going to be gay. Then there's also the ideas of what makes a "real man", something which many men are simply not going to be able to obtain. Men aren't told it's bad to wear a t-shirt and jeans. That's just not an issue people have to face. So saying that people don't care about boys being feminine clearly isn't true. They care a lot, otherwise boys would just be allowed to express themselves as they please.

You also ignored that part about TERFs. If you think gender norms are good, why do you suddenly ally yourselves with feminists who straight up say that gender binary needs to be destroyed? Just because they don't like trans people?

Also, the public restroom issue is a fantasy problem. It's been debunked many times as making no sense.