Relationship troubles

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I haven't been in a relationship in more than a year and haven't been looking for one in 8 months. But lately I've been getting lonely.

A year ago I ended my relationship with the girl I love because though we were in love our relationship was toxic. We tried dating several times but... It just didn't work, we're still friends.

I tried dating after but went through nightmare situations. after encountering 5 girls who were insane in a row I decide to just stop for a while.

Now its been a while and I'm lonely, I don't want to date right now, I don't think I'm in a good situation I just started my first job after college.
But at this point I'm not really sure when to try and get back into it. Like I said I don't want to date right now, but I'm lonely.

I woke up this morning from having a dream about my ex and it just put me in a miserable depressed and lonely mood for hours.

IS any of this normal?

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  • Tealights
    6 years ago

    You're very normal.

    However, it feels you're not actually looking deep within yourself and thinking seriously about what you want in a partner or from youself. Loneliness is cured simply by hanging out with friends/family (or making new friends) and just doing your own thing to occupy your time. That means getting into new hobbies and just seeing how far you can push yourself with anything you find interesting (learning the guitar, hiking, whatever).

    In my opinion, you sound like your using a relationship to fill a void instead of conquering your feelings head on and going through the motions of coming to terms with losing your ex. On top of that, it sounds like you're picking out the same old women with the same old traits, instead of thinking of what characteristics would be beneficial in a loving partner and searching for them.

    In the end, you're normal and behaving typically. You're a young man making young man mistakes, and probably have bad luck with women due to picking woman out mostly for their appearances rather than anything else (most super attractive girls are crazy, not all though. But you got to look deeper and not think with your dick so often).

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      6 years ago

      Most of what you've said I agree with or at least see your point but your last paragraph is way off the mark.

      Out of the 6, the 5 plus my ex 1 was hot 3 were average and 2 were below average. I was not choosing based on looks.

      One of my friends actually told me to raise my standards.

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      • Tealights
        6 years ago

        My bad. So use to most guys only caring about looks more than anything.

        Since that's not the case for you, then you're probably picking girls with the same old same old without realizing it. Read up on relationship red flags, most will be advice tailored for women, but ignore that since women can show the same signs. Also, go to a site called Badassyoungmen.com; it's one of the best male advice sites I found so far that doesn't have silly bullshit and help men become healthier not only in the relationship, but with themselves, well minus their marketing ploys.

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  • chrisupi007
    6 years ago

    It's normal, just stick to your goals and everything else will fall into place.

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  • Zorak
    6 years ago

    Yeah, seems kind of normal given your cirCUMstances.

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  • Nickvey
    6 years ago

    you need a pump and dump one night stand to cure those blues dude. it will fix everything. just be sure to wear a condom no matter what and flush it so she can't have sperm access. i wouldn't even tell her my name. its you balls that need cleared not your head.

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