Question about sitting on best guy friend’s lap

The question:

Do you think it would be okay for me to spontaneously sit on the lap of my close best guy friend who I’ve been having a flirtation with for a while?

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  • bitch, why you wanna do that? that nigga ain't Santa Claus, da only gifts he'll bring is herpes; and not da good kind

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  • If you want to take him out of the friend zone, sit on him. Of you don't, don't lead the poor boy on.

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  • I'm confused by your OP and the responses on here - do you want a sexual/romantic relationship with him or not? If you do then I would sit in his lap. Sends a clear message about your desires without actually pressuring him into doing anything (compared to, for example, trying to kiss him - if he isn't it to it then that gets very awkward).

    If you don't want a sexual/romantic relationship with him then do not sit in his lap when you know he has sexual feelings for you. That would make you a bitch, and certainly not a good friend.

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  • I would say it's okay so long as you're not leading him on.

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  • It's not something I would do.

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  • Yes sit on his lap and talk about the first thing that pops up ;-)

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  • While I support the idea of going ahead and sitting on his lap (especially if he shows signs of wanting you to do so), There's one issue I have with this. You need to keep in mind the fact that you're going to be leading him on emotionally. If you don't want anything romantic or physical you should absolutely put your cards on the table before doing so. It's cruel to give a guy hope with no intention of going further together romantically.

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  • Yes, but he'll probs think you like him if you do

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    • He already knows about my interest in him. :)

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    • Agree. He will see it as you like him romantically/sexually most likely.

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  • Errr sure

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  • i sat on a friend of mines lap once because it made his dog mad

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    • Is 'making his dog mad' an expression in your neck of the woods for riling up a certain part of a man's anatomy?

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      • I can see an actual dog doing that. I used to have a dog that would get mad, sad, and or jealous, whenever I touched other people. XD

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        • it was the dog would growl when he was makin time with his girlfriend and we we discussin that when i had the bright idea to prove a point

          but leave it to isitnormalers to turn it onto some kinda wild sexual escapade

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          • Oh, come on. I'm sure your life is one continual wild sexual escapade.

            Funny story, though. One of our dogs gets all whiny and attention-needy whenever my wife and I hug, and she goes completely nuts if my wife, daughter and I have a three-way hug. When our daughter was little and she cried, the dog would sit next to her whining and looking very unhappy, and she still does that if she hears a baby crying on TV.

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  • Why wouldn't it be, it's pretty normal to sit on someones lap unless you make a big deal out of it. And if you guys have been flirting it's probably cool whatever happens

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  • With your pants pulled down?

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  • If you do that, you're putting your genitals in close proximity or even in contact with his genitals. If you can't see how that's a significant escalation of your flirting, then you're pretty damn dim.

    Girls who do this kind of thing just to tease, with no intention of going any further but simply to enjoy their power to sexually arouse a guy are manipulative little bitches playing with fire.

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    • Thanks for your answer. I don’t want to sit on his lap for sexual reasons. It’s not because I’m trying to sexually turn him on. I want to do it because I feel very close to him. We tell each other personal things, and love to hang out all the time. He’s clearly hot for me, and he always likes it when I get close, but I’ve never sat on his lap. My main hesitation is that I don’t know if it would be like violating his boundaries to just spontaneously sit on his lap.

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      • You haven't said if you are male or female. If you are male you better be sure he's flirting with you or you'll end up on the floor with a sore head and no friend. If he is flirting or you're female then be ready for a relationship change.

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        • I’m female. :)

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      • I think I know how this will play out if you did sit on his lap.. lap? Okay, let's go with lap. 1. You do it, he doesn't escalate things sexually, you feel undesirable and in turn you blame him for being 'slow'. 2. You do it, things escalate sexually, dude get's out of that friends zone in an instant, still, you blame him for taking advantage of you.

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      • I assume you're both teens, and I think many young women don't really appreciate just how much most young men think about sex.

        Maybe your friend is unusual, but I'm sure most teenage guys would find it difficult not to be sexually aroused if a girl they thought attractive was sitting on their lap. I accept that isn't your intention, and he might not want it to happen either. But guys don't have any conscious control over their erections, and I think it's very likely to happen.

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        • Thanks. Also, we’re in our mid 20’s.

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      • Why not ask him about it. Start with a casual conversation about how you like him and the kind of relationship you are having... eventually get to the point of telling him that you would like to sit on his lap just to get closer - but nor for sex at this time.

        Do not be surprised if this does lead to a sexual relationship, even if it starts out non-sexual.

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    • ...wow. I would not have expected the incel response from you of all people.

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  • Based on your and his sex and his preferences go ahead and try and you will find out quickly.

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    • Thanks. What do you mean by “and you will find out quickly”?

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  • Hmmm, idk. When it comes to physical advances, spontaneous usually isn't the best approach without knowing for sure that it's ok.

    I've known other women who were all "oh yeah, he's totally into me, we flirt all the time" (and in their particular case, not necessarily what's going on with you) it was just the guy being friendly/cordial, and a rapid advancement only freaked them out

    I mean, would you fuck your hoodie?

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  • Yes but if you're asking this does that mean you like him as more than a friend? If so, why not tell him?

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    • I wouldn’t tell him because he already knows I like him as more than a friend.

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  • Si

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  • Its OK.

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    • Said yes to what? Are you meaning I should directly ask him if should sit on his lap?

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  • Bro men are dick thinkers! Prob get a bonerrr ugh dicks are gross af! I dont want to see that shit

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