People pleaser or standing up for yourself is like a double-edged sword
I used to be a people pleaser and very nice to people. While lots of people became very close and fond of me because I was sweet and innocent, I can see I was also being emotionally bullied, ridiculed and used for their own gains by some of the bad apples where at the same time wore the 'friend' masks. In return, I got a positive reputation of being a sweet, a soft, a friendly, easy to approach and a gentle person by many when I was a people pleaser.
Now that I've changed. I stand up for myself because I felt like a loser and had enough of being used or ridiculed, I started to lose lots of positive impressions from others. I fought some of the bad apples and called out on their detestable actions while a few guy friends hardly approched me anymore and majority of female friends and acquaintances wouldn't talk to me and worse, some of them gave me the glares of disgust because they saw me raised my voice and fought others. I no longer get ridiculed but in return some people started to hate me.
So is it normal to believe that being a people pleaser and standing up for yourself have their own pros and cons?