Not normal but does anyone else purposely ruin relationships?

I have this cycle where I meet people, make friends with them, and then after about a year, I purposely push them away and isolate myself. I do this because I feel like they don't like me anymore and that I don't belong. I hate doing it, but I can't help it. It's like I can't stop once I get into the "They probably hate me" mindset.

Anyone else?

Is It Normal?
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  • I don’t push people away on purpose per say, but it doesn’t take much for me to not look back.

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    Sad stuff.

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  • Yup.

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  • I have known people like this. They usually have some trauma in their past.

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  • Yeah. I have a very short temper and I get offended too easily which I am aware of. I've struggled greatly with accepting that people sometimes do or say hurtful things because they are hurting and I just cut them off immadiately and tell them to fuck off. Sometimes i've gotten back in touch in the future though and it's all good. I think it's self sabotage mixed with trust issues. I pretty much always assume people secretly hate me too or has bad intensions so I am on edge and lowkey just waiting for them to fuck up so I can feel that I was right and cut them off. It's toxic behaviour for sure though. No person is perfect nobody says the right things all the time or never makes any mistakes. It's always a risk to let somebody enter your life you can never know for sure what they're like, just trust your insticts and try to be patient with people and work on your confidence. It's a confidence issue when you feel people probably hate you all the time, plus everyone gets annoyed at their friends sometimes but that doesn't mean they hate them but if you're an insecure person you're going to interpret their bad mood that way. All you can do is work on yourself. I'm doing the same thing.

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  • It’s called self-sabotage and you’re not alone in dealing with it. The fact that you’ve noticed this pattern is your first step to correcting it.

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