My wife does not like kiss

My wife of 20 years doesn't like to kiss either, she says it's "too personal". Well that's the point of kissing. Every other girl I've ever dated kissed freely and enjoyed it. I miss it deeply. I've found that if a woman (or a man) is not willing to engage in this kind of deep intimacy, then there are deeper problems than just kissing (generally).
So for that, and other intimacy reasons, I'm planning to leave.

Oops. Anyway, don't worry. I do the same thing to my hubby, but I love him very much. The thing is that many times his timing is off (like he will want to start making out in the kitchen while I am trying to clean and in a bad mood. I hope I don't sound mean. Maybe you should just try setting the mood first. Tell her how beautiful she looks and compliment something small like her earrings or her hairstyle. Hold her for a moment and just tell her how much you missed her first. Then go in for the kill. Sometimes we women just need a little romance. I think most of the time my husband moves in too fast and kills the mood. Good luck! I know it will work!

making out with girls is fun

i cna understand soem of the other comments, you need to amke sure she knows you just would like to enjoy some kissing time, nothing else and there's no need for tongue, unless she is pleased by a tounge in her mouth or putting hers in yours, there's jsut some people don't like it ok?, furthermore try and get her to realize you just want the kisses, and you would like maybe small intervals of maybe just a few minutes to kiss in a day, that's not too much to aks if she loves you. And in a sex health magazine i read it's nice if you embrace as well but at the right moments, embrace shortly if you want just some attention for a long kiss but not when's shes busy obviously. Get your little kisses at times of business and when you got the down time get in the 10 or more minutes of kissing on the couch, upright probably at first and let her know again, that you don't want sex to lead form it at the time, you'd just like some kisses,(trust me i love getting kisses all the time from mine without it being much more, just some good old snuggling and kissing!)

My wife of almost 40 years does not like to kiss either. It wasn't until about 10 years ago that her father verified that as a baby, she would gag whenever someone kissed her. So this goes way back. She loves me, but still does not kiss much or long and never any tongue action. The rest of our life together is quite normal and enjoyable. I guess I've given up on a lot of kissing and she gave up being rich! But it is "'til death do us part."

Hmm, well, it could be because she doesn't like it that you don't use the words "the" and "it" when you speak.
(Just a thought)

Maybe you should kiss her in another place?

Maybe she doesn´t like french kisses or...Do you wash your teeth?

you are just gross you totally deserve to be alone!

She doesn't love or want a close intimate relationship with you! With you! With you ! With you !

Women have sex mentally and in order for some of us want to kiss you have to warm us up. Just jumping into a kiss a deep passionate kiss it takes time, It takes a average woman about 15 mins into sex just to get turned on and it takes another 15 mins just to have a orgasm. So if you want a kiss a deep passionate kiss from her do something nice. Warm her up. Make her feel like you actually love her and it isnt about sex. Make her feel like she is the one for you! Eye contact is important and its the small things that matter. Do the dishes after dinner,run into the kitchen before her and do them. Wash clothes. Take out the trash without her asking you. Cook dinner. Its the small things that matter. When she first wake up and she have morning breath look at her and tell her how beautiful she is..

I'm sorry but if someone doesn't like kissing they're fucking dumb, kissing is amazing especially with the right person.

maybe she isnt in love with you..

you should ask her why.

I hate, Hate, HATE kissing! it is disgusting! I am 26 and female. I just think the idea of it is sickening. I think I'd rather suck a guy's penis than kiss him on the lips. My boyfirend also really likes kissing, it was more tolerable when I first met him. But for some reason the past few years it just plain grosses me out. I also don't like massaging him. You're all probably wondering why he is even with me; well, I've asked the same question! LOL

someone needs a tik-tak!

maybe she is having an affair

Same with my wife .. at the start it's frequent the sex all the other stuff so you don't notice or realize it's a problem till later .. now it's at the 12 year mark with an 11 year old boy .. I asked her more than once why don't you kiss ? Answer each time "I never saw my parents do that " .. on top of it she is not affectionate or let's me sleep in the same bed with her .. imagine how hard it's gets over time .. I don't know anymore it's sucks all my energy away .. I really believe this is a type of person not sure what kind but I will say this .no matter what the problem is with me or her .. if she where to say to me "listen Tom when I marry you I will never kiss you or sleep in the same bed with you " I wouldn't have married her so what is the point of saying to death till us part ? If she had mental problems or couldn't hold a job down or something ..ag whatever I will stop there ..

all of you are retarded! I personally do not like to kiss and have never liked it, not even a quick peck, and i am fully in love with my husband! Everyone here needs to stop calling us unnormal just because we don't like doing someone most people do! There is nothing wrong with us because we don't like doing something that you do! Stop saying we are weird, unnormal, and need to be helped, it just makes us feel like shit for something about ourselves that we can't change. I don't like to kiss my husband and we found a way around it, kissing is not needed to survive, it's just something that some people like to do.

I am a woman and I LOVE kissing. I agree it is the most intimate act. My wife hates to kiss. She use to kiss me a lot. I know she loves me and we make love, but I must say I miss the kissing very much. She told me she doesn't think she is good at it, but I told her when she means it I feel it. I always kiss her good bye and good night. But if I don't she never thinks to. But I would never leave her over it. But for the ones here that are not even sleeping in the same room, get out life is too short to be that unhappy. Everyone deserves to be loved and to fell loved.

Well well well..... I see I am not alone. Reasons a woman not kissing man may be many, something stupid like not fancing smelly breath, especially if you are a smoker and she is not (or the other way around)...some women are very fussy about this things. My gf, is one of them, we got together, and initially was all fine, then, after a while, stopped kissing, so found out that smell of cigarette put her off, well but why not telling me that you don't like smoker at beginning. Anyway, the reality is that she is not a tactile person and she find hard to show emotions. Well... this said, once, during sex, we had a very intimate session, touching her spots in many way, and we had the best sensual kisses ever, full of love, passion, dirty, nice, sensual, rithmic and hot kisses.... Women are delicate souls, you need to be deeper than an empty can of beer to understand them, but also this issues should be resolved in two, and I do understand who shows frustration becuase his girlfriend is not willing to counselling. At the end we are just simply men, mostly nice guys, hard wokers and good dads.... we can not always be the motor which run the thing and we do need the other part to do the first step every now and then. So yes guys... sympathy for you all.

I really wish I had come back here sooner. No, it runs very deep & I am thoroughly sick of living my life as someone who is too disgusting to even be kissed. There is a A LOT under the surface that you all don't know.

I NEED intimacy. But her lack of kissing is a power thing, she knows it's what I want & for that reason will not give it. We now sleep in separate bedrooms & we haven't had sex in almost a year (not like I'm missing anything though).

We're in our mid to late 50's & stuck in a sexless, intimateless, & loveless marriage. But we can't get out (for various reasons), so I guess I just have to suck it up & spend the rest of my life missing out on the most important things in life... love & intimacy.

You just implied that there is something not normal about your wife because she does not like to kiss you.... everyone is making a lot of negative implications but only towards her, that is not fair at all. Maybe she loves everything about you but she doesn't like how you kiss, and because she loves you so much she doesn't want to hurt you by telling you the truth. So next time instead of assuming there is something wrong with her, look at yourself first, you may not be as normal at you think... and I think it is definitely not normal for a husband to try and change his wife obviously you should have taken that in to consideration before you tied the knot...its not like you just figured this one out, you knew before you married her saliva is not as repulsive to her as you think it just might be your kiss that she finds repulsive. Sounds like she loves you a lot and you should appreciate that your wife loves you enough that something as intimate and important as a kiss she was willing to give up, because spending the rest of her life with you meant more to her than this "20" minute pleasure you so strongly miss and desire, maybe she desires it as well maybe instead of trying to change her try changing the way that you kiss her she may teach you something you know!!! good luck to you both

Reddevil@. She doesnt like them anywhere.

I used to be like that with an exboyfriend in a really serious relationship but with my new boyfriend I like kissing.

Don't put up with that trash no kiss thing ! You cant make her do it ! if you do it will make her disslike you even more ! You notice how i said she will diss like you even more she already diss likes you !
She is not with you because you are the one she wants ! She is with you because you are all she could get !
DON't walk away from that pice of trash RUN !!!! and never ever go back to it or anything that looks like it !

So set her freeeeeeee and let her get it on with the one she really wants so she can be happy !!!!!

If I am not the Brad pit in your life then pack your trash and get gone! I have no time now or later for you lack of love or affecion ! I am worth more then that! I would rather be alone in the truth then with some one in a lie !!!!!!

If she loved you it would be important to her she would want to kiss you a lot !!!!

What a bunch of trash! women are not deep souls men are the ones who are ! women go to the strip club and get all sorts of crazy so did the striper romance theme warm theme up as you say ? NO ! Just face the truth they are not so much in to you ! what i am saying is not to hurt you it's so you can hear the truth finely ! Women who are that way don't want to be that close something is wrong with theme and you are not there first choice but they will never tell you that ! If they thought they had a chance with striper boy yup that's right and they would be kissing him all over if that's what he wanted why because he is the one they really want your just a substitute let it sink in and don't forget it the rest of what women are saying is a lie ! when a women masturbates did she romance her self HAHAHAHA. What a load of trash! Women don't want you to know this so remember it !