My son is pretending to be depressed
My son has been insisting that he is depressed but I think he's lying to me and his therapist.
Apparently he says that "none of his friends understand him" and claims they don't really care about him. It seems so silly; his friends are nice so I don't know what the problem is.
I tell him that if he really feels that way he should just go outside for once and make new friends, but for some reason he thinks that won't work.
He says that his life is too stressful too. He spends plenty of time at home doing nothing and he is doing just fine in school. Most children his age would kill to have a stress-free life like his.
When I was his age I had so much more to deal with. I had to work 2 jobs at his age because my family was poor, and I never got to see my family because of work. I didn't even get to finish college because I was stuck taking care of him. If he thinks his life is stressful he is dead wrong.
He even goes so far as to say he wants to get medication. I've heard that people with depression just need vitamin supplements, so I don't know why he wants to take such an extreme path.
I never had depression, even though my life was worse than his. I don't know where this came from (probably today's "coddle culture") but this is not how I raised him to be.
If he was really depressed he would actually act like a depressed person. He wouldn't be able to get out of bed, he wouldn't be doing well in school, he wouldn't have friends, and he sure as hell wouldn't have such a nice life.
How can I convince my son that it's all in his head?
What should I do to stop him from being influenced by coddle culture?
Should I stop bringing him to therapy and make him solve his own problems instead of having someone reinforce his negative thoughts?
No. | 49 | |
Yes, he is definitely lying | 11 |