My only friend group hates me and i don't know what to do

My bestfriend just informed me about a sort of support group moment with our friend group, in which all of them basically ended up saying they dislike me. Like, none of them like me. I've been actively making an effort to be more likeable to them because I knew there were problems, but it seems like all of that was for naught.

They aren't going to kick me from the group because none of them are confrontational. I don't know what to do. Aside from my bestfriend, they're the only group of people I interact with. I keep trying to make friends, but somehow I can't manage to hold onto anyone for long, let alone actually like others.

I messed up, a lot. And I've been trying to make up for it and become a more agreeable person. Many of the reasons for them to dislike me is because of how blunt I am about grievances about them that they don't need to hear. In a fit of rage, I even called one of them a slur.

I don't want to leave, and they aren't going to change their behavior about me, but I genuinely have no idea what to do. I worry that if I leave, I will rely too much on my bestfriend again, like I did in previous years.

It's so... crushing. Almost nobody that I interact with likes me. I keep fucking up. I keep saying shit that they don't wanna hear. I keep being mean. I keep hurting feelings. I keep inserting myself into things I'm not part of. I keep being inconsiderate about how they feel. This is my fault. I have almost nobody else.

I fumbled the bag.

I worry that I will end up isolating myself and slipping into depression, as I constantly question my own likeability and the fact that my friend pool is so thin. This basically confirms my fears.

None of them know that I know about what occurred, but I don't know how to move on from this. I'm really lost and hurt, but I know I brought this upon myself.

What do I do?

Help us keep this site organized and clean. Thanks!
[ Report Post ]
Comments ( 10 ) Sort: best | oldest
  • I think you should look for a good therapist like Cuntsiclestick suggested.

    I'm also curious as to whether, or not you might be on the autism spectrum, and might not be aware of what you do that is socially unacceptable and or offensive to others. Be careful about using slurs in today's political climate. I don't know you but, it's possible that you might have said something offensive in reaction to something a person did that was very hurtful, or offensive to you in a moment of rage, or otherwise uncontrollable emotion.

    I don't know you, but I wish you well; especially because we are living in very judgemental, and divided times.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
  • Find new friends, humans are virtually unlimited.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
  • They're not your friends. I'm sorry, but it sounds like you're trying to make friends with the wrong kind of people. My advice? Have a walk around, join a club, check out the gym. Soon you'll meet new people, and like a below 0 Degrees water molecule, you'll stick together, and bond well.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
  • There's nothing wrong with being blunt. Maybe your friend group needs to learn how to get over it.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    • there are times and places when being blunt isn't appreciated like calling a dead person a cunt at their own funeral. the friend group sounds like a bunch of cowards if they cant even get the balls to kick OP out of the group

      Comment Hidden ( show )
      • This is very different from calling a dead person a cunt. If people can't handle hearing something they don't like, then that's their problem. People are too sensitive these days and everyone is just expected to shut up and cater to them and their feelings.

        Comment Hidden ( show )
  • You have a friend group?? I don't even have a friend group at all.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
  • Find a therapist. A good one will actually care about your problems and give you direction on how to change.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
Add A Comment