My hubby lost his job, can only get interviews in jobs paying much less

My hubby lost his job, and is now having to interview for a job paying 1/4 his old salary. He has been looking for months and barely ever even gets in interview, Not only am I worried about not being able to save for retirement because no one seems to even want to interview him, but he's also interviewing for a retail job in the neighborhood and our obnoxious neighbors will all talk about us if he works there. I think they'll enjoy that we're down on our luck.

He's 45 and a college grad. I don't know why he can't get interviews in his past profession. I'm feeling depressed. is it normal that I'm so worried that the people around us will look down on us and treat us badly because of this?

*Edit: I have a job already. We need 2 incomes to support us

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  • Hey don't worry. Let him take a job for a lesser salary and work for a couple of years. He will get much better offers while working. Stay strong. You both will get back to your previous level of income and you will have plenty of time to save for retirement. Good luck!

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  • You should never give two shits what people think about you. Especially random neighbors. If they aren't your friends, why care? They could be weird af.. Just support eachother and make sure your blinds are closed.

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  • Thanks to the people who wrote helpful and empathetic comments. I'm realizing it doesn't matter what negative people think. I hope my hubby gets this job.

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  • What's his former profession? Also, was he fired, did he quit, or was his department outsourced?

    I ask, because it depends on these factors; as in his profession could be hard to get back into, or if he was fired/quit word could get around to other companies. Or if outsourced, his profession could be dying out.

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    • He was laid off and it's a profession where computers are making it obsolete, but no one wants to seem to give him a chance in other positions. He has applied to jobs in the field he was in and other fields.

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      • Okay, so it makes more sense now. It's not so much his age, but his profession. If there's a cheaper way to do something, companies will do it despite how many lives it may affect.

        He may need to think deeply about his next career and go back to college. However, in the meantime he may need to work anywhere he can until all this is sorted out. It sucks, but your neighbors aren't living with you, and they're probably miserable anyway which is why they would be up in your business. Just focus on your husband more than thinking about these people; brainstorm with him and more, cause he needs you now more than ever.

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  • My dad was in the same position. Two M.Ds and no one would hire him! Take the job but still go to interviews. The longer without work the less likely he is to be hired. Also get a headhunter. They will find interviews that he matches the description for

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    • So sorry to hear about your dad.

      My hubby took the job but after a bit he will start looking again and yeah he'll continue to use headhunters. You're right the longer you're out of work the less likely he was to be hired.

      At the very least the job he took treats him well other than the low pay.

      Thanks for your supportive post.

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  • Has your husband asked why he wasn't considered for an interview and what can he do to increase his chances. Is he being stopped because of his age?

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    • Please come back

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    • I was thinking it could be his age. I'm not sure what he can do about that.

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  • Welcome to the club.
    This is part of 'make America great'
    If you're a 1%r.
    If not, you're fucked.
    Yea unemployment is low, but the wages are shit.
    People are just taking anything to keep from being homeless.

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  • Sorry but this now the real world I got a layoff 2013 making 65K+ now working for 30K per year ..It is the getting worst every day
    and cost is going up i pay $600 per month insurance. 5K out of pocket ......THE END IS NEAR....

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  • Its a bummer when that happens. Employers often lay off senior workers then hire lower paid help and train them. Its a fact of life. The time to LOOK for a job is when you HAVE one. Always have an exit strategy. Its a cut throat world out there right now. People are on the move all the time.

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  • I feel like most places only want people willing to take way less money to do the job. He may be best qualified for the position but whatever saves them the most money is usually the option they will go with.. i don’t have a whole lot of work experience but been in “management” for 5 years and we always always always have to pick the candidate that is willing to take less money for the job.

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  • Could look into dropshipping

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  • First kob paid 8, left at 10.50 second job paid 15.56 third job paid 12 on weeks 13 ond week ends, less pay but i wasuch happier. I moved up here 2 michigan. Im getting 9.25 an hour. 9 bloody 25. Im 20 almost 21 ttying tp save for trabs surgeries, a pet bunny anc college. So yea i get how you feel it bloody sucks

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    • Ty for empathizing. Best wishes for saving up for surgery and your other expenses

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  • Get a job yourself, support him while he searches, but for fuck sake worry hard about the neighbors.

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    • I have a job... why would you assume I don't? We need both incomes. Thanks for assuming the worst of me. I always support my husband. Thanks for your rudeness.

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      • I apologize I misread. Just encourage your husband and keep doing you. You are both on the right track. As for the neighbors, you can poop on their lawn or not give 2 shits(pun) and just go about.

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        • Thanks for apologizing. I appreciate it. I'm trying not to care what the neighbors think, but I always worry what others think of me, but I'm trying not to care

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