My girlfriend is mad i brought ants in the house?

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Today I got yelled at by my girlfriend. I was in the house with a bunch of food I got from a place that gives out food for free.I wanted to surprise her it wasn't her birthday or anything but it was special just for her. Unfortunately that didn't last long because there were ants in the box. I was fucken pissed. So was she, and that's when it started. I told her I was sorry but She still was pissed for the fact ants were in the house. I told her they were in the box not the food. She still said the ants could of crawled into the food, dump the shit out. I told her,could we keep the jalapeño pizza?I got for her and us. She said throw the crap out. A matter a fact clean the fucken floor up. I said ok whatever...I tried to tell her that the pizza was her surprise. That I felt bad the ants got into it. That I was thinking about her. She told me instead that I should have been more careful if I really cared about her so much. I was like, ok? So the thought doesn't count? She basically was saying I don't care what you did, you shouldn't bring ants in the house its fucken retarded. I was so close of walking out the door. I can't deal with shit like that. You appreciate on what you get, even if it means things getting ruined. It's the thought that counts. Well not for this crazy bitch!...sorry guys I had to vent.

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Tealights

5 years ago

She's a bitch, and you both have poor communication skills; basically you're in a bad relationship.

Here's what you can do:
1. End the relationship and focus on you for the next year or so. That means, learning who you are, what you like or don't like, experimenting, learning, and growing as a person; so the next relationship that comes you enter with gusto.

2. Stay in this shit relationship for another few months, years, or however long you want to cling to this chick. You might even marry her, who knows... Be wrong all the time, and get yelled at, then have angry apology sex when things are looking up until you're too old to find someone better.

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- Zonfire80
  
  5 years ago
  
  She's so sexy though. I mean her boobs,her hips, her ass and her beautiful face. Her shape makes me crazy about her. Kind of like the song "I'm in love with the shape of you". hee hee. But man for someone who is so tiny 4'10 she sure knows how to sometimes be controlling. She's submissive in the bedroom but kind of both submissive and dominant in the relationship. I feel like her Beauty has blinded me. Her soft high feminine voice has numb me. Every thing about her has made me feel even more connected.
  
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- Zonfire80
  
  5 years ago
  
  I have different issues than you buddy, I'm a pre op transman who needs her more than ever. She's my transportation, meaning she helps me get to my doctors appointment for my T shots. She reminds me to take my T shots. She's helping me find adorable surgery. She works and I don't. Well I was fired, and thinking about getting SSI. I have disabilities. For one thing I have aspergers and 2 I have bipolar 1 disorder. These make it hard for me to keep up with a job. So you don't understand? If I leave her, I have nothing. So no I'm staying.
  
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  - Tealights
    
    5 years ago
    
    Ah I see. She's your mom. Not your real mom, but a mom nonetheless in the examples you've gave. Supporting you, driving you around, accepting all you excuses for why you can't work, and overall treating you like a child.
    
    The dynamic is wacky, but if she's cool with this, then your relationship is okay I guess. I had a childish partner once, it drove me crazy cause I had to tell him not to eat random shit, to bath, remind him of this and that, it was insane; but there are people who like this sort of thing, hope your gf is one of them
    
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KiwiWisdom

5 years ago

It's normal. You're both wrong and missing the point, on top of not communicating well. Your thought does count and so does her being stressed by ants. Next time don't sit there telling her how you meant to be thoughtful though. It was thoughtful, it just had a nasty surprise for both of you. Just take care of what's in front of you next time and she'll respect you for it. Then you can talk about it calmly and listen carefully. You shouldn't eat food that's been potentially infested and your lucky she likes you enough to tell you to throw it out instead of letting you eat it. Deciding what your girlfriend "basically said" instead of what she actually said is a good way to keep a fight going. It's also okay to take a break and sort out your emotions. Just tell her you need to take a breather next time and actually walk out if you need to so you don't overreact. Then just come back when you're calm and handle it. That's how you turn a surprise loss into a win, by handling it instead of reacting to it.

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- Zonfire80
  
  5 years ago
  
  Yea but I didn't see ants on the pizza should I still throw it out? I looked in the pizza box there wasn't any ants? The only thing is, it was in a box closed but still holes in the box??? Also you're right I need to work on my communication skills. I also need to work on my anger.
  
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  - KiwiWisdom
    
    5 years ago
    
    Yes. Throw away the box and food. It's a matter of trust at that point. It was free too, so there's no financial loss. You still did it because you care and that has it's own value. Only you can throw that away by putting an expection of gratitude on your gf.
    
    Also as a point of fact, men are closer wired to be scavengers while women are not. It's where the phrase "eating like a bachelor" comes from, so wanting to eat a pizza bugs probably crawled on is as natural as her telling you to junk it. She told you she didn't want it, so just listen. Show her you care more about her word than a free pizza. You did this because you wanted to show you care - so do that. It's okay to make mistakes, just learn from them.
    
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    - Zonfire80
      
      5 years ago
      
      Ok I guess I will have too. :(
      My favorite jalapeño pizza waisted...
      
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lilquiche

5 years ago

Sounds like there are deeper issues in your relationship than just ants in some food, either that or your girlfriend just has anger problems. Either way you should probably try to talk to her about it

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- Zonfire80
  
  5 years ago
  
  My girlfriend can get angry sometimes and I'm the one that has anger problems. We all can have bad days. Its human, I just don't understand how someone can be so ungrateful. I want to talk to her but I'm to pissed to do that right now!!! So that's why I'm posting on here.
  
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lordofopinions

5 years ago

I don't blame her for getting pissed at you for bringing ants in the house in a box of food. That's really gross!!!

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curious-bunny

5 years ago

It's hard to appreaciate some thing when you are pissed off

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