My girlfriend’s kid doesn’t accept me
I’m 35 and my GF is 31. She has a 8 y/o son who is very traumatized by his father abandoning him at the age of 6. He is very protective of his mother and no matter what I do, I can’t get on his good side (trust me, I’m trying hard). I recently got him a PS5 with a ton of good games and an extra controller so I can play with him, but he doesn’t even let me play with him. I have tried everything to fill the gap his dad left behind, but I keep failing miserably. I explained to him that I would love to be a part of his life and to care for him like his mother does. I avoid comparing myself to his dad, while at the same time I am trying hard to break through his heart of stone. He recently told me to get lost and not steal his mother from him. I gave him a hug and explained that it’s not a competition for his mother’s attention and he shouldn’t see it that way. I explained that I care too, but he doesn’t trust me and keeps insisting that I am stealing his mom’s time from him.
I know I can’t buy him with money, but I’m trying hard to show that I care by getting him things that he always wanted. Tomorrow I’ll be buying a couple more good games for him and I’m planning to get him a Nintendo Switch for Christmas. I hope this wonderful boy accepts me someday.