My future ex bf, is this normal

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So shit he has given me hell for for being into, size queenining being into groups. Enjoying being seen everything he hates about me and has made me feel like shit about I found out hesvfollowing a girl on Twitter trans and everything kind if even looks like me with all the same interests! I was borrowing his phone and he got a notification she posted something. And so o looked her up and its like wtf. What am I missing. Why does he seek it out with other girls yet the one who loved him and who he loved back he pushed away and made feel like shit for all of that. I don't understand. Yes it's me bunny. Obviously.. just I'm confused and kinda hurt about this

Edit: she even loves books like. Do it looks like. Like wtf

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  • Maid_in_Pink
    4 years ago

    Everything you are talking about are all big signs of someone who is psychologically abusive. Those are most of the same things one of my ex's did to me and she ended up being a very awful person and gave me what is essentially PTSD. You're honestly better off just getting away from them. Most likely the reason why he's ok with other people being into things but not you is that he wants total control over you and stripping away things from you and putting you down is the easiest way to get that.

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    • curious-bunny
      4 years ago

      Damn. That would make sense. Thank you for the input. I never thought about it like that. I'm sorry that happened to you. I'm glad you got away

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  • SwickDinging
    4 years ago

    Bunny, the answer to all of these questions is that he's an inadequate asshole. Stop looking for what's wrong with you in this situation because trust me, it's not you, it's him. It's ALL HIM.

    He clearly has a lot of very serious issues. I'm not going to speculate as to what they are specifically because I don't know the guy, but from the times we've have chats on here what I can tell you is that you can do so much better. I think deep down you already know this but his shitty behaviour has knocked your confidence so maybe it's hard for you to see it sometimes.

    I know you're already planning on leaving him anyway which is great, but please try and leave him with your confidence and dignity in tact. Don't walk away wondering what you did wrong and why he didn't treat you right. Just bust out of there and get on with living your life. You'll meet someone great eventually and in the meantime you don't need his shitty treatment of you casting a shadow over your future adventures. Don't give him that power.

    I would look at it like this; you had a lapse in judgement, got with someone who wasn't worth your time, let him get inside your head but now you're breaking free and moving on to bigger and better things. That's the end of that chapter, done.

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    • curious-bunny
      4 years ago

      That was beautifully put thank you, you are absolutely right. I'll try and move past this. Shouldn't be to hard once I move out. If not before then

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  • AMERICANsavage
    4 years ago

    Atleast it looks like you and not some totally opposite type of person. Sounds like he's into your type lol

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    • curious-bunny
      4 years ago

      Yes but why make me feel like shot over stuff he's clearly into. Like wtf. I'm confused and wounded man. I moved 1000 miles to be with him. For this. I don't care if he looks at porn or girls or whatever but exactly like me and after all the hell I've gotten. It just hurts.

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      • AMERICANsavage
        4 years ago

        Some people are really weird about sex. It benefitted me a lot working on jealousy with my wife. Yall seem abit too jealous.

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        • curious-bunny
          4 years ago

          I'm not jealous. I dont love him anymore I don't want him anymore. I just simply want to understand why. Why someone exactly like he hates being in a relationship with. It doesn't make sense to me.

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          • Ellenna
            4 years ago

            You need to work towards not caring about why: try focussing on what would be better in your life without him and move towards that

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          • AMERICANsavage
            4 years ago

            Why cant yall work it out?

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            • curious-bunny
              4 years ago

              Must be new here haha. He's said some very hurtful things to me I cannot forgive. We haven't even shared the room in over 2 months

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  • [Old Memory]
    4 years ago

    Is this the same guy you had problems with a while back. He was getting violent or something. I can't remember but this post rings a bell

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    • curious-bunny
      4 years ago

      Emotionally aggressive I should say but yes

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  • RoseIsabella
    4 years ago

    Fear of intimacy?

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    • curious-bunny
      4 years ago

      How do you mean? You think he's scared of being intimate? I mean he's not exactly a cuddler so maybe

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      • RoseIsabella
        4 years ago

        Well, maybe not sexually intimate, but emotionally intimate in a deep meaningful way, yes. Anyway, you said he was abusive, so just dump him.

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        • curious-bunny
          4 years ago

          Mm right on, I will. Working 2 jobs now and apartment hunting. So either I move back home or stay in the area at least I'll have enough money to get by for awhile while I search or whatever.

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          • RoseIsabella
            4 years ago

            It would be better to move back home than stay with and abusive asshole.

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            • curious-bunny
              4 years ago

              Absolutely. In looking at apartments both here and there. There's one a mile away rich is not yo bad so I could still walk to work or there's cheaper ones in north Dakota but I don't know about work

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