My family lies by omission all the time

This is essentially a vent, not really an IIN.

I have always described my family as "shady". They've lied to many people as I stood beside them, knowing that they're lying. As a kid, I usually looked up at either of my parents and gave a confused look, or blurted out the truth, speaking before I thought about it.

As time went on, the lies seemed to be more and more drastic. For example, at 14 years old, I found from my mother's Instagram page that she was cheating on my father. My sister and I decided to show him the images, and in a desperate attempt to hide it, my mother tried blocking herself from the device.

Months later, she left and took thousands of dollars. She didn't tell my father that she wanted a divorce or that she wanted to leave. She just... left.

From there, my father began dating women as a rebound from her, and started dating a wealthy southern woman. She and her son went from North Carolina to New Jersey to meet my father. I soon found out that my father did not love her and actually found her physically repulsive, but didn't tell her because she was wealthy.

A couple weeks went by and I was disgusted by how nobody in my family told the woman how he truly felt. Neither of my sisters batted an eye. I decided that keeping it from her was wrong, and during a drive to high school, I let her know how he felt.

She didn't have a clue that he was gold digging, and was very thankful that I told her. She thought that I was so unwilling to talk to her was because I hated her, when the truth was that I didn't want to be part of a lie.

Finally, there was a day where our family dog passed away after running into the street. My mother loved the dog, arguably more than her children, and would be devastated by the news. Nobody told her about it, and I had to be the one to send the message.

TL;DR: My mom cheated and didn't tell my dad before she left, my dad was gold digging with a woman he found ugly and nobody said a thing, and my mom's dog died and nobody told her.

I hate how prone they are to lie or not say what happened. I always tell the truth and I'm starting to be hated for it. I'm not wrong for telling people the truth, am I?

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Comments ( 11 )
  • Ellenna

    It's not wrong to tell the truth, but as you've discovered sometimes the consequences of doing so aren't pleasant. I've also often found myself in the position of stating truths other people don't want to hear and have copped shit for it too. Not a new problem: check out Cassandra in Greek mythology, who was condemned by some god or other to always tell the truth but never to be believed!

    I commend you for being so dedicated to the truth when your parents are both so dishonest and such bad role models.

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  • FromTheSouthWeirdMan

    Good job on destroying your family multiple times

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  • mandownunder

    Don't lie or you'll end up like SCUM like your parents.. change the book. Change your surname to something you like and move on

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  • --

    Thats life! Thats what all the people say, and as funny as it may seem some people get their kicks stomping on a dream. But I don't let it get me down because this fine old world keeps spinning around.

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    • bigbudchonga

      You'll be riding high in April, shot down in May

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  • Clunk42

    What does this have to do with "lying by omission"?

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  • TerriAngel

    Nik, how'd you know about prison?
    Next you'll be saying its the guards that actually bring 90% of the contraband into prisons.
    Convicts are strip searched, sometimes cavity searched.
    visitors are patted down, and physically molested
    ( pat down search. )
    Only the guards walk in.
    sometimes with gym bags full of drugs, phones, cigs, or whatever is wanted.
    But knowone ever searches a guard.
    They're the good guys, right?

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  • sissycakes

    I like how truthful you are in really big situations.

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  • TerriAngel

    You dont help others by telling them the truth about a situation.
    No matter your intentions.
    people will not trust you,and even blame you.
    Ultimatly you can do this.
    Be yourself.
    Be honest.
    Avoid those who put you into a possition where they expect you to lie for them.

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    • Nikclaire

      Yup. There is a saying in jails and prison. "Do your own time".

      It means mind your business and if you happen upon information, keep it to yourself.

      The same can be said for life.

      O.P sounds like Woody Woodpecker, using the "truth" as an excuse, but the "truth", is never black or white.

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  • RoseIsabella

    The truth will set you free, this is true, but it's still a jungle out there.

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