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Miss, I'm breaking bro code here, but I thought you should know. You're boyfriend/husband showed me pictures of you nude.
| That asshole! Those were for his eyes only! | 5 | |
| You shouldn't have told me. I didn't need to know that you saw me naked! | 2 | |
| That's impossible. I would never pose nude for anyone. | 1 | |
| All he did was show them to you? Ask him for copies. | 10 | |
| That's fine. As long as he didn't give you copies. | 12 |
As far back as I can remember the question, "can I take a naughty picture of you?" has also implied; "So I can keep it forever, showing it off to my friends and strangers." This was way before the internet, but I really feel like the rules are still the same.
Now that the internet has been around a while, we KNOW anything digital is about impossible to really erase and is basically bound to end up on the internet forever. So, when we 'relent' and let you take naughty pics or vid, it isn't my boyfriend or husband I had in mind, it was your social circle and if I could handle YOUR friends seeing and having copies of them.
Rule one, make the photographer swear to never share them and destroy them as soon as the relationship is over. You never really mean it, but social norms make us feel obligated to demand this to let ourselves become this 'vulnerable' to social scorn. I know it will last forever and that is part of the reason it turned me on enough to let you talk me into posing.
Rule two, As soon as you have them safely away from the model, show them off proudly to your social circle. It wasn't my boyfriend taking the photos that I thought of as I posed. I think of his guy friends that I KNOW he is going to proudly show them off too. This does NOT mean that the men shown get to blab about it. Telling us that our guys are sharing or showing off our private pics or vids leaves us with no good reactions. Once we posed, we CAN'T really do anything about it anymore. Please don't humiliate us or make us pressured to make a scene over it.
Rule three, When she gets upset over it, breaks up with you, or asks you destroy them; That is code for; cool it with the sharing of them until after we are no longer in the same social circles. We have limits too. We knew what we were getting into when we posed for them but we have limits too. Don't ruin it for future guys by humiliating us TOO much. In this case Butthole Charming, backstabbed his friend by breaking the "Bro Code" and made us all feel bad. He's the real jerk in my mind.
Rule four, guys that get to see them DO NOT tell the girl or any of her social circle that the pics exist or that you saw them or have copies. Pulling us aside and telling us my guy showed you my most private pictures doesn't just break the "Bro code" but breaks unwritten societal norms. Like it, don't like it. Just don't be a jerk and snitch. You become the rat and everyone's good time is wrecked.
So not all that long ago I snooped in on my husband's log in and saw that he has pics and videos of his brother's wives, several of his friend's wives and ex's. Seeing this I assume they all have at least some of my husband's pics and vid of me as well.
So, after breaking all social norms and humiliating us, you have BETTER end it with a compliment. "Wow, you look even hotter in person!"
Thanks. Very well written.
By the way, just for the record, No one has ever shown me pictures of his wife/girlfriend nude. The closest has been bikini pics. I just wanted to see what kind of reaction I'd get. If someone ever does show nude pictures, I won't tell the woman.