Love is useless

There is no point in love. Loving people is more of a mistake than a gift, unlike how society tries to make it seem like love is the best thing ever. Bullshit. First of all, the majority of people don't "love" anyone. They just pretend they do, or even might be fooling themselves into believing they do, when un fact, they don't. Second of all, the people you love have more power to hurt you than anyone else. Why love someone when that person is just going to use the love you have for them against you? Why let someone have that power over you? Pointless. Not only is it useless, but love is just a really stupid concept.

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  • Nah. I’m a sucker for love.

    I would disagree about the majority of people not truly loving anyone. I know incredibly loving people who it comes to very naturally. I do think, however, that not everyone is hardwired for love-induced dedication, like what most of society would consider “true love”. Nothing wrong with that, it seems completely foreign and “impossible” in my mind but I can recognize that it isn’t for everyone.

    You can love someone more than they love you, sure, but in a bonded relationship where feeling is mutual there isn’t the fear of that person hurting you. People who love you will not intentionally harm you, and they should make great effort not to unintentionally harm you either.

    Could someone I love harm me incredibly ? Of course. But the people who love me will not. I have complete confidence and security in my relationship and I have full trust in many of my friendships and family ties, it doesn’t even cross my mind at how they could hurt me because I simply don’t have to worry about it.

    There is the idealized concept of love, that some people don’t prescribe to or haven’t experienced. If you are looking for one specific type of love and you wish it to be fully mutual and unbreaking, you may be looking for a very very long time, never find it, or you may get lucky. I, and my wife, were incredibly lucky (and I do attribute much of it to luck) to have two parents who truly loved eachother, so we were given a running start on understanding what love is and how to interpret it.

    Building a relationship takes effort, there is a lot of trial and error, but eventually if compatibility is optimal it should ease to a more natural gait.

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    • "Nah. I’m a sucker for love".

      I pity you.

      "You can love someone more than they love you, sure, but in a bonded relationship where feeling is mutual there isn’t the fear of that person hurting you. People who love you will not intentionally harm you, and they should make great effort not to unintentionally harm you either".

      Thank you! You just proved my point. When people have these meaningless relationships with others, they don't really have that fear of those close to them hurting them, which is exactly what makes people more prone to being hurt. A lot of people didn't have that fear, but guess what? They got hurt. A lot of them ended up hurt in so many ways possible, and a lot even ended up dead. You never trust those you love the most. Surprise surprise. Actually, not true. Those you love can in fact intentionally harm you. And don't even try to pull the "then they don't truly love you" card. You can love someone, yet still intentionally hurt them at times. But it doesn't even matter, because intentional or unintentional, they still did it.

      "Could someone I love harm me incredibly ? Of course. But the people who love me will not. I have complete confidence and security in my relationship and I have full trust in many of my friendships and family ties, it doesn’t even cross my mind at how they could hurt me because I simply don’t have to worry about it".

      Yeah, that's what they all say. Jesus, you couldn't be anymore naive. I'm sure that Shannan didn't know her husband Chris Watts would hurt her, now she's dead because of him. Almost all the people that got hurt thought exactly like you. Not saying that will be the case for you, just saying to not be so confident. Oh, and this is irrelevant anyways. Those you "love" will hurt you more than your enemies if they wanted to, and even if those around you haven't hurt you, it doesn't change the fact that everyone you "love" has the power to hurt you the most. You're not focusing on the bigger picture. Next.

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      • "You can love someone, yet still intentionally hurt them at times."

        I don't think this is as universally accepted as you seem to think it is. I don't recall ever intentionally hurting someone I loved in my life. That doesn't make me special either; I think that's the majority of people. Why the fuck would someone intentionally hurt someone they love besides being a sadist or something? Accidentally or inadvertently is another story.

        That aside, I see what you're getting at but it seems more like you're saying love isn't real than that it's useless.

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        • "I don't think this is as universally accepted as you seem to think it is. I don't recall ever intentionally hurting someone I loved in my life. That doesn't make me special either; I think that's the majority of people. Why the fuck would someone intentionally hurt someone they love besides being a sadist or something? Accidentally or inadvertently is another story".

          Whether you have or not is irrelevant.

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  • No matter how many times you post this (and your other sociopathic posts), it won't change the outcome of the responses you get.

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    • "Sociopathic". Lol. I'm only talking about reality. And no matter how many times people disagree with me, it doesn't change the truth. For example, let's say I killed someone. I was arrested for it. Just because I deny murdering someone, does not change the fact that I did. I can deny a million times, but it won't make a difference.

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      • Emotions at their core are not logical and will shift from person to person. I'll reiterate what I've said everytime you've made this post: If you truly have never loved a person, you need to see a therapist or another mental health professional.

        Notably, just because you don't feel these emotions doesn't mean everyone else doesn't. This outlook on life is associated with anti-social personality disorder, those who suffered through familial trauma in their childhoods, or other social development issues. It's also entirely possible that simply you have an unreasonable expectation of what love actually is.

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        • 'Emotions at their core are not logical and will shift from person to person. I'll reiterate what I've said everytime you've made this post: If you truly have never loved a person, you need to see a therapist or another mental health professional".

          "I feel love, so you should too". Give me a break. Not truly have loved someone does not mean you're mentally ill. Thus belief you and others have goes to show how ignorant society is.

          "Notably, just because you don't feel these emotions doesn't mean everyone else doesn't. This outlook on life is associated with anti-social personality disorder, those who suffered through familial trauma in their childhoods, or other social development issues. It's also entirely possible that simply you have an unreasonable expectation of what love actually is".

          I find it quite funny that you people associate everything you consider uncommon with a mental illness. Retardation at it's fullest. And sorry to be the one to tell you, but people only pretend to care about you. People don't actually love you like they claim they do. It's just facts.

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          • I associate your statements with mental illness as they fit the textbook definition of anti-social personality disorder; a mental illness.

            I'm not even saying you should have to feel love. Plenty of people go through life being aromatic and have no issues. The difference is that they don't act like an absolute asshole about it. (And yes, you're being an asshole.)

            Even if others do not love me, which is actually more likely than you would believe, it won't stop me from caring about people. For instance, my parents hate me. I still love them nonetheless.

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            • "I associate your statements with mental illness as they fit the textbook definition of anti-social personality disorder; a mental illness".

              People that don't experience sexual desires and don't desire romantic relationships (aromanticism) have been diagnosed with mental illnesses, including schizoid personality disorder. Are they mentally ill? No. This is just wishful thinking on your part. You'd rather me be a mentally ill sociopathic person spouting nonsense, rather than accept things for how they are. You'd rather see things through rose tinted glasses. Claim I'm mentally ill if it makes you feel better. Just because you say I'm mentally ill does not make it true.

              "I'm not even saying you should have to feel love. Plenty of people go through life being aromatic and have no issues. The difference is that they don't act like an absolute asshole about it. (And yes, you're being an asshole.)".

              "If you truly have never loved a person, you need to see a therapist or another mental health professional". Sounds exactly what you are saying to me. Do you have memory loss? And you seem to associate bluntness with being an asshole. I'm not surprised, considering being honest is almost always associated with being an asshole.

              "Even if others do not love me, which is actually more likely than you would believe, it won't stop me from caring about people. For instance, my parents hate me. I still love them nonetheless".

              I can't help but feel sorry for you. Caring for people that don't give a shit about you is sad.

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      • tell it to oj

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        • Tha Juice?

          When O.J. got off for killing his ex wife, my dad started randomly saying, "the Juice is loose"!

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          • i was workin my first real job outta school and was at a bar in a mall (imagine that now - we were prolly smokin cigarettes there too) in woodbridge nj

            i was havin drinks with coworkers and some random police chase was on tv in the background

            turns out that was the infamous white bronco chase

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        • ...O.J. Simpson?

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  • This post has such an incredibly naive view of one of the most integral human concepts that it doesn’t deserve an answer beyond informing the op that it doesn’t deserve an answer.

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    • If it doesn't deserve an answer, then don't comment. Simple.

      Also, has it ever crossed your mind that maybe the majority has a naive view of one of the most integral human concepts? Jesus, why am I even asking this question. of course it hasn't.

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  • Give all the love you have in your heart to cats.

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    • I'll give them love even though I don't find them cute.

      I am still thinking about getting one.

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    • Lol I already plan on that. Thinking about becoming a crazy cat person.

      Animals, including cats, are awesome.

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      • I can live without a romantic partner no problem, but living without a cat lonesome.

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        • Yep, cats are better than romantic partners.

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          • I've been married twice, and had probably more than my share of boyfriends, but the man I loved most in my life would have to be my late, great Siamese cat! Only Jesus, and my father are more important to me than my cat that I lost to congestive heart failure last October!

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  • You know there's more than just one kind of love, don't you?

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  • i used to feel the same when i was crippingly depressed. still feel like this every now and then, on my bad days.

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  • I've often avoided love, love just scares me.

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    • You should avoid it. Helps you in the long run.

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      • Geez you just want to be apart of the frowning friends dont you?

        Watch out for the renaissance men I hear they are coming to town

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        • Movie reference?

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  • I thought love was going to be a long and tedious thing... nope. Found my person within 3 dating attempts. It was probably luck that I found a person with a different frequency of weird to complement my weirdness but we jive together, sharing the same brain cell when it matters.

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    • What exactly is your point?

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  • Were you hurt because of love?

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    • Nope. Haven't really experienced hurt all that much.

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      • how much love have you experienced in your life?, either familial or romantic

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        • I have a better question.

          Why do you care? And to answer your question: Not much. I in fact have never experienced romantic love.

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          • I care because, you posting this while barely experiencing love just means you're not all that qualified to say the words " Love is Useless"

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            • With that logic, if I don't experience rape, I am not qualified to say it is bad because I have never experienced it. People can't say murder is bad unless they have had a friend or family that was killed. Very flawed logic you have there.

              I don't need to have experienced love in order to say it is useless. I may have no experienced love aside from my mother, but I have made many observations.

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