Left someone dramatically, but still wish they are okay

So awhile back I flirted with this person. And it got pretty intense. And we were really hitting it off. Until we weren't. And we had a falling out. Then we reconciled. Then we went through several cycles of breaking off all contact, and coming back together.

It got very toxic by the end, and a lot of harsh words were said on both sides. Nothing extremely extreme, but I think that verbally, we both threw in all our arsenal of insults to completely hurt each other's feelings. (Nothing racist nor extremely offensive was said: we are both not that type of people.) But other word combos were used that... looking back... sound extremely hurtful. And I know I am guilty of hurting their feelings as well. But they also hurt mine. So eventually I cut them off for good.

And I have moved on now. (And some of our mutual friends still hate that person.) But... I'm surprised to find that I don't.

I actually hope they (the person I had been in an intense flirting and later shouting match with) I hope they are happy and okay. I hope they found what they were looking for in someone else. (Because I cannot provide that for them.) And I hope their life and career is doing fine. I hope they are healthy. Hope they eat well and hope they get to spend time with their pet.

Is it normal that I'm no longer upset at them? That I wish them well, despite how things ended between us. (And no I don't want to get back together with them. It is clear to me now that we simply are not compatible. We have different needs when it comes to intimacy.)

Is It Normal?
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