Is this what orientation confusion is?

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I'm a dude with a serious problem.

I want to marry a woman. But guys get me hard easily. But I want to start a family. But I can't easily get hard for a girl. Basically my dick wants what my mind doesn't and my mind wants what my dick doesn't. I want to have a traditional married life but I fear that it won't be as easy to be happy this way. And it doesn't help that I really want to know what it would be like for someone to mess with my ass. If I were to actually do it with a guy I'd probably be pretty versatile but I'd really want to bottom the first time.

I don't know how to come to terms with this. I'm scared that if I get close enough to any girls to share this detail I'll scare them off. Especially when I mention the ass stuff. I'm worried that the only girls who would be accepting of this would be a little... too into it, and not as traditional as I'm looking for. And I can't just try everything, my culture really values commitment. Waiting until marriage, vowing to only do it with her, etc. And I can't break it, I really do want to be able to say I was saving it for her.

I don't know what to do.

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  • kelliekelliekellie
    6 years ago

    Do guys get you hard or does the male body gets you hard? There's a big difference there. Some people are sexually attracted to their own bodies, that's called being autosexual. Only the mere fact of seeing their body makes them want to have sex, not the view of other's bodies. If that's the case for you, that doesn't mean you're gay, that means you simply have to try valuing your girlfriend better and try to detach from yourself.

    Just because you wanna be buttfucked doesn't make you gay. There are a ton of factors that also count, like being emotionally connected to another guy. If it's just sex, I'm sorry but anybody can fuck anybody. It's about pleasure, and it has nothing to do with being gay. It's just people who wanna seek whats the best for them sexually, and if you"re with another guy you'll both know what you want, same goes for girls. But you can't live a whole life off sex!!

    If any guy that you see on the street can get you hard (like from talking to them, imagining you have sex with them...), AND, if you feel an emotional connection to them, and not for girls, then yes, you might be a homosexual. Which is perfectly fine, homosexuals can perfectly start a family like any other heterosexual family. The importance is what really makes you happy.

    If you want to find out what you are, there is a sexual orientation test called the Klein test. You might find it online. It tells you very accurately what orientation you are, by asking you your fantasies, your social environment, but most importantly, what you really want and what will make you happy (does living with a guy gives you butterflies just thinking about it? Or is it repulsive to you?)

    It will help finding out who you are and moving on with your life without living a lie. You can do it. Good luck.

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    • K9422
      6 years ago

      That was an awesome reply.

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