Is this weird to do to him? or should i go for it?

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So to make long story short I posted here previously about a cashier in his 40's that worked at a gas station that I find handsome. I asked if I could paint him one day and he said sure (I'm f21), I brought it back to show him a day or so later and he loved it and it was great. I don't know this guy, but last time I posted I said that I had an urge to kiss him and was asking if I should or not.

I ended up a little while after posting going back to the same gas station and asked him if he was married. He said no, so I leaned in and said "I want to kiss you, can I kiss you on the cheek?" His eyes lit up, he seemed pretty surprised and he said yes. He pulled down his mask and I kissed him several times on the cheek, he giggled. I walked out and giggled about it. He went out by the doorway and said "That was real cute hun" with a smile, and then in response I ran over and kissed him again and left.

He seemed startled when I ran up and kissed him for a second time and I barely remember his reaction when I kissed him the 2nd time since I was giddy. It's been about a month now I haven't seen him at all, and I know he still works there but I also haven't seen him when I have gone back in. (Which I've only done once or twice.) Everyday since I've wanted to kiss him again. I REALLY want to kiss him on the lips or makeout with him, and I'm not too scared to ask but I'd rather not if he'd feel uncomfortable or have to deny me. I don't want to creep him out, and I don't want him to think I'm obsessed with him either. I really can't tell how his perspective might be because of our age difference, and I don't expect much from him at all. What would your response be? And what do you think about this situation? Do you think he might be creeped out? I've thought about also just painting him a picture and then asking for a kiss after

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  • donteatstuffoffthesidewalk
    3 years ago | pl

    be sure to sand and prime him first

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    • RoseIsabella
      3 years ago

      LOL! 😆

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  • [Old Memory]
    3 years ago

    Painting pictures of him, checking up on him at work, kissing his cheek before getting to know him

    Seems stalker esque. I'd say gold digger, but he's working at a gas station. I don't know. Definitely seems like something is up with you mentally

    Did you really paint a picture of him in one day? In just one day? I like painting too and I just don't see how a painting of a person you just met could come out well in one day

    Why are you fixated on him? Is it because you could tell he would appreciate the attention? Is there something about that that makes you attracted to him?

    Why can't you talk to him and lead it into dates or hanging out? Is there something about the customer/employee relationship you like?

    Something just seems off

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      3 years ago

      Yes, one day. I just paint a fuckton, all day most days. I took a picture of him so that's how I had a steady reference. Gold digger? LOL. Just because I'm a girl that talks to an older guy doesn't mean it's anything to do with money, I couldn't care less literally. Plus why would I target him if I could just go on some sugar baby site.
      I'm not sure why I like him so much, I just think he's really cute and I like kissing him, you're right that it does seem a bit stalker esque which is why I posted this. I genuinely wouldn't want to make him feel uncomfortable, so with that being said I guess I won't approach him again.
      I don't want to date or hang out with him cause I don't know him and that'd be weird the hang out with something so significantly older... I mean I don't know if it's obvious why or not but yeah that's not really something girls do for a reason.
      If it makes any more sense, he has talked to me before, once he came out to me while I was putting gas in my tank and he said he paid for a wash for me and when I asked why he said, "because I like you hun" so it's not like he's never bitten back but that was before I kissed him

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      • [Old Memory]
        3 years ago

        I kinda wish I could see the painting just to appreciate the art

        I kinda picked up that you didn't want to hang out with, it contrasted ominously with kissing him

        But you're saying it was an emotional compromising position? I've been there and done silly things

        I wouldn't lead him on or anything, unless you think you can make him a make out partner

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          3 years ago

          Thank you, and I'm definitely not trying to lead him on. I don't really know if he even cares about me lol I just know he thinks I'm cute or maybe cool

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  • Cuntsiclestick
    3 years ago

    Just go in when he has a shift and ask him out already. It doesn't matter if a month has passed. No sane, single person would turn down a younger person hitting on them.

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    • CapriSun
      3 years ago

      Yeah, I'm just nervous about making him uncomfortable, cause I'm really not obsessive over him or anything. I'm just sort of in lust and think he's beautiful

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  • TruthandReality
    3 years ago

    Hes definitely a little nervous probably. Only bc you might have msde it a little akward for him for random kisses making him feel a little harassed. Its not good when people feel that way cause they can do something unnecessary like tell staff. You need to be upfront and a little at ease and ask Him about wanting a relationship. He might say yes. And if he doesn't yall can still be friends and something can happen later on

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  • CDmale4fem
    3 years ago

    Damn, i would be on cloud 9 if something like that happened to me. But i dont really see that in my future at all. Leave him a note at his job asking him to contact you. He just might. Unless he really is married.

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  • RoseIsabella
    3 years ago

    What you are describing is really more infatuation than anything else. You have a lustful crush on a stranger that you don't know from Adam, and now your obsessed with him. I'm sure he's flattered, and he probably enjoys it from what you've said, but it's also kinda stalkerish.

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  • litelander8
    3 years ago

    I think he should be showing you more interest to be getting so much of yours!

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      3 years ago

      Yeah I always wish but I don't expect it when he's at work. I get hit on semi decently so I was kind of surprised he didn't approach me again after but again I wouldn't expect that from him, he seems like a humble guy he probably is just doing his own thing

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  • rocketdave
    3 years ago

    Ask him if he'll pose nude for you?

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    • CapriSun
      3 years ago

      I've painted guys naked before it's awkward and they just get a boner

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      • TruthandReality
        3 years ago

        Lol

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