Is this right?

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Well, my fiance and I are getting married in May ( we have been together for over 3 yrs ) and today, I found out that his ex girlfriend has been in contact with his mother for a while now. So his ex girlfriend came by their house and spend time with his family.She was with him for 4 years and was around them everyday.

Now,that does not upset me but his ex girlfriend was upset because my fiance had moved on and she decided to write me some nasty messages. Though some time has passed, she has friend requested my fiance online and his mom is aware of all of this. On the day that his ex came by, she left a few minutes before he arrived from work and there was a 90 percent chance that they could have crossed paths. My fiance wants nothing to do with her and his mother knows that so is it right that she allows his ex to come by and spend time with them because from my point of view, it feels like she misses her and wants her back in their lives.

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  • Katie96
    14 years ago

    Wow. I would be upset too. BUT they have a right to be friends with whoever they want to, and it doesnt really mean they dont like you. But still I think it is um... inconsiderate? of them to have really close contact. She should call them once in a while instead of always coming over there. To me, it kinda seems like she's stalking him from a distance, ya know?

    Any time she tries to contact your boyfriend, you should have a total temper tantrum. She doesnt have the right to be friends with him. She should be DECENT enough to leave him alone now that he is with someone else.

    Sounds to me like he is better off without her!

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  • [Old Memory]
    14 years ago

    Yeah I think you are right. Your fiance, not you, has a responsibility to straighten his mother totally out. He has tried, to his credit, but his mother is not listening, and he needs to address what she is up to.

    Maybe Mom is just being manipulated. But whatever the case, she needs to stop bringing this unwanted ex-girlfriend into his life.

    There is nothing wrong with you wanting him with no strings attached, especially to a person who is decidedly hostile toward you. So in addition to straightening out his mother, your fiance needs to cut off ties and approaches by this ex-gf.

    Support him, but don't be dragged into dealing with his ex-gf & mom yourself. I think he is on board, even embarrassed by their inappropriate behaviour, so you should have little difficulty.

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    • jlove
      14 years ago

      He spoke to his mom about it and she agreed that it would bring problems between us and that it would hurt my feelings. It really hurts my feelings because I had called her earlier that evening and she sounded indifferent so when I found out that his ex was there, I made the conclusion that she didnt want to speak to me because his ex was there. So overall, his mom was aware of the problems she could bring by allowing his ex over even if he wasnt there. I also feel like she is a "two-face" because she would bring her around and still smile in my face and be nice to me.

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