Is suicide cowardly?

Is Suicide Cowardly?

I'd like a discussion on this topic. I am not suicidal, I would just like to hear other people's opinions.

I believe suicide is cowardly, and I know why I believe it. I would learn about conflicting opinions (In a respectful manner of course, I would like this to be a civil discussion) and hear from people who agree with me as well.

EDIT:
Life is a blessing, there are millions of people who never get a chance at life, just to be alive is reason enough to live. Some babies for example are never born, others are born with horrible diseases. Just to be alive and to be able to think and feel, that is a blessing. To think people take life for granted so much to take their own life is horrendous to me. Be grateful for the opportunity of life you have received that others never had a chance at.

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Comments ( 46 )
  • It's a weird mix of brave and cowardly. You are too cowardly to go through with the pain you have in your life so you plan to make the scariest path which is death.

    While it is cowardly to do I don't think suicide can or should be explained as such because it's obviously not that simple and the reasons are different for each individual reason for suicide.

    We all die eventually. We don't know what happens after death, if it's better or worse but wouldn't that be enough of a reason to atleast play out your life knowing that in the end the reason for suicide is also the reason to keep living? That it's all just temporary, so why not try it?

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  • Holzman_67

    "You can help solve the overpopulation problem this quick easy way! This year, why not commit suicide? Just leave a note telling your loved ones that you did it to help stave off worldwide famine and they will respect and admire you for your courage."
    -Robert Crumb

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  • _Mehhhh_

    It's a desperate act of a person in a very deep, dark place, who has lost all hope that things will ever get better for them.

    I don't think it's cowardly. I can kind of see the argument if you're talking about someone leaving close family members (especially children) behind, but a suicidal person is so consumed with dispair they probably don't think they're good enough for their family anyway.

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  • paramore93

    People who commit suicide are not cowards, do you have any idea how much courage it takes to actually go through with something like that?
    They genuinely believe that there is no other way to end their pain and suffering ..

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    • Holzman_67

      Yeah I remember being depressed but I never had the conviction to actually attempt to kill myself but I always wished there was a 3rd option - just to sleep for a few years and take time out or something like that

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      • RoseIsabella

        I've always wanted to sleep through the pain.

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  • curious-bunny

    It's a point of view, personally I find it brave and if it's desired I'll never step in the way. My boyfriend wants to die in ten-15 years it drives me nuts but I won't stop him

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  • Sure, but they have the right to decide whether or not to continue going on.

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  • KiwiWisdom

    It can be, but it isn't always. Have to take it on a case by cas basis.

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  • Hateful1

    As many have already said it's circumstantial.

    There are some really good reasons to commit suicide. Excruciating pain for one. I'm not talking a hangnail, I'm talking fused spinal column. Also permanent infirmity. In some cultures it is expected of the elderly to allow themselves to die once they feel unable to contribute.

    And as for it being cowardly. I don't get that. I'm a believer in an afterlife so the thought of death doesn't scare me. But most people who say they believe are terrified. So trying to commit suicide would be an act of courage.

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  • Becky95

    I think it's terribly complex

    It can be cowardly or it can be brave

    It can be an act of mental illness and often is, but it can often seem quite sane

    Everything depends on the circumstances

    I have considered it many times before - often times for reasons I cannot fully explain

    My heart goes out to any who suffer with dark thoughts of Death or who have suffered because of suicide

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  • Emona

    I do not view suicide as the coward's way out because no other person on Earth can know exactly what that person went through. Also, when people are suicidal, they may be selfish, but so is the rest of the population for not helping them; you can't honestly tell me that nobody saw the warning signs and chose to do nothing. Also, for the people that claim suicide is selfish; depression is a disease characterized by feeling alone and isolated (especially when no one you know is going through the same feelings you are), so what else would a person think about when it seems that nobody is thinking about them? Don't be too quick to judge, suicide is one of those things you don't understand unless you've been in a similar position: it's like calling someone who has PTSD from their tour in Afghanistan "touchy" or "angry". In closing, next time you hear about someone committing suicide, don't detest them as a coward, show some empathy and admit you don't know what they went through to get to that point where they feel so hopeless that they're willing to end their only life to escape it.

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  • Kevinevan

    Why don't you start the conversation by telling us WHY you believe it's cowardly.

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    • Plebian162

      Good idea!

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  • Blabla123

    No its not, its true other peoples reaction might probably be bad and get them into depression tho you can do whatever you want with your life if it wont objectively hurt others :3

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  • TerriAngel

    Cowardly?
    Who are you to judge?
    I can describe any number of people and you would cheer for them to get a death penalty.
    But if they do it themself you call it cowerdess.
    I say make it legal.
    And let them die peacefully.
    Their blood and organs can go to those that need them.
    I've been in dark places.
    Don't judge.
    Be greatful you haven't been there.

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  • Nickvey

    California have this suicide law now , so if you need help kicking the bucket move to california they will be happy to kill you

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  • RoseIsabella

    I would neither call suicide brave nor cowardly. Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. People end their lives when they simply can't bear the pain of living anymore. Suicide is tragic. It's near impossible for people who have never felt suicidal to even begin to understand.

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  • insanebotv21

    Honestly... you fuck it up you end of ten times worse than when you started, and it's a waste of motivation. I know i'm too much of a pussy to do it, so i know it's not a cowardly act, but it solves nothing .

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  • Tealights

    To put it simply, it's giving up. You feel defeated, and ready to quit the game instead of continuing.

    Suicide, in my opinion, is purely linked to self-worth, with mental illnesses only amplifying the feeling. However, it's true that it's a feeling one must experience to understand, because when you give yourself the chance look back on it after overcoming your ordeals, you'll realize it was neither selfish nor cowardly, just extremely foolish.

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    • Kevinevan

      It's not always foolish. People die agonizing deaths every day. People die on the streets after decades of misery and no hope. They could have shortened the misery they had to endure.

      The problem I see with suicide is there is no sure fire way to kill oneself if you have limited resources.

      After failing at suicide you feel even worse and honestly people won't do anything after the initial shock wears off. People prefer to write it off and not deal with someone who tried to commit suicide. Of course mental health professionals will be happy to take money from you, worsening your life even more. After a few days the suicidal person is even more alone.

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      • Tealights

        Sounds like you're speaking from experience.

        It depends on the person and what they're willing to endure. The reason why I believe it's linked to self-worth is largely due to the fact that others who gone through the same scenario and made the best of it; the terminally ill living (sometimes painfully) until the very end, or the disabled (whether mentally or physically) going above and beyond, or those trapped in terrible situations getting out of it and so on. How could they keep on living? No doubt they must have thought about ending it all with how life stack so much against them. Was it family? Maybe. Friends? Perhaps. But what about those who have no family or friends, or strongly believe they're alone in the world? I believe they may have felt more than what they were limited to, that with all the suffering they been through, it's time they work toward what they always wanted.

        I get that suicide can be humane in some aspects, similar to euthanasia.

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  • linchpin

    Someone oughta gather up all the suicide notes and publish them in a book. Could be very revealing
    "Ohhhh it's the food!"

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  • Zorak

    We live during a time when painal is an acceptable sexual act. Life is a gift.

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  • Pumpurrnickel

    I wouldn't say it is cowardly. It does take bravery to kill yourself, and then embrace the unknown.

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  • xfg55

    There are at least two solutions to any problem. One is always suicide.

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    • Kevinevan

      I am pretty sure everyone wants to know what the other solution is genious.

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      • xfg55

        The other solution is a large sweaty penis in your mouth.

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  • SmokeEverything

    It's kind of pointless. We're all going to die eventually anyway. Why not see as much as you can beforehand?

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  • rayb12

    I don't support suicide but I think your reasoning is ghastly and horrid. Please never ever say what you do in this post to even a potentially suicidal person.
    When you are experiencing that much pain every day, being told how great and precious your life is and how others have it worse is the absolute last thing you want to hear.
    It shows no empathy whatsoever and no desire to help the person with whatever they're going through. If I were suicidal and someone told me this I would feel completely not listened to and very angry.

    The true reason suicide is dumb is that our minds are very irrational and we convince ourselves that are day to day emotional state is permanent be it good or bad, while if you wait it out, and cut off the hate as much as you can, eventually you will be surrounded by the truly encouraging people you deserve.

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    • Kevinevan

      The first half of your post I agree with.

      The second half not so much. There are myriad reasons life could become so horrible that there is no way out. Disease is an obvious one. Surrounding oneself with encouraging people is not a solution to all problems.

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      • rayb12

        Yeah for sure. I support hospital assisted suicide even. I wasn't thinking about the question that broadly. Thanks

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  • BlackCatsAreAwesome

    Life is not a blessing. You must be some super religious bigot to believe that.

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    • Pumpurrnickel

      How ironic. Insulting someone who disagrees with you by calling them a bigot.

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      • BlackCatsAreAwesome

        Because the OP does not insult people who commit suicide by calling them cowards?

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        • Pumpurrnickel

          He is insulting no one. He has an opinion on a topic and he wants to know what others think about it. Learn to read. Religion and bigotry has nothing to do with this.

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          • BlackCatsAreAwesome

            I also have an opinion. Learn to read too.
            And religion has a lot to do with it. It's religion that makes stupid assertions about the so called sanctity of life.

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            • Pumpurrnickel

              Your opinion is an opinion even though you made it sound like fact. You even made it ironic by insulting OP with "bigot." The irony is that you're the bigot. Religion isn't mentioned in the post. You have no clue if OP is religious or not. Anyway, I know you're not the brightest person so I will state this simply. Your opinion is stupid and wrong.

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    • CapriSun

      Actually, believe it or not but it's possible to be both not religious and happy. In fact I'm pretty sure religious people are more unhappy.

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      • bob7

        You just made negative sense with your statement

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