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I really want my kids to have a bright future in college so I'm doing whatever i can to raise the money. i Love my family :')
I voted yes, but in all actuality it is a no, but just because something's not normal, does it mean it's necessarily A Bad Thing, You Do unfortunately end up spending less time with your children, but a lot of children go without, you'll never have to worry about your children being like those with one parent homes that live off of food stamps, WIC and in state housing like HUD/section 8 your children will be taken care of and if they decide to further their education they won't have to worry about that dark cloud over their head also known as financial aid, maybe you could work 6 days a week? And just put money away, don't touch that money and put it in a savings account so it accumulates interest, give yourself one day off if not to relax or to spend time with your children, you won't get those years back.
i just wanna make money for my kids education (just in case). im not forcing them to go to college. im saving up when the time is right. the money im making right now is just a backup.
i respect whatever decision my children make in the future :D
judging by everyones comments here. i guess im doing something wrong.
sorry all
So you're spending as little time as possible with your kids, and telling yourself this is for their benefit in the distant future.
While surveys show that people with a degree earn more on average, there's more to life than making money. Lots of people who are successful in financial terms and have "good" jobs are actually pretty miserable. Sometimes that's due to deep-seated low self-esteem because they grew up feeling that their parents didn't really like them, had impossibly high expectations of what they'd achieve, or pressured them into following a course in life that didn't really suit them.
When you're a parent, it's impossible to be certain you're making the right decisions, but it's almost guaranteed that your kids will be certain you made the wrong choices.
People think their own parents made the wrong choices until they become parents themselves and find out there is this thing called "opportunity cost".
Now if the OP had said, "I work only as much as necessary so I can spend time with my kids, but I have no money for their college" then would THAT have been wrong?
One thing we cannot do as adults is sit around blaming our parents if our lives are not perfect. If you heard someone blaming their parents, wouldn't you say, "grow the f*** up and be a man/woman.
This is making some assumptions.
First, you're assuming that they are a single parent. If the other parent is spending time with the kids, the probability that they're growing up lonely and resentful is a lot lower.
Second, you're assuming that they are pressuring their children with high expectations just because they have a college fund ready. This may or may not be true, but it can't be assumed based on the OP.
Third, you're assuming that the kids are objective. They may be certain of their opinions of the parents' choices, but that doesn't make them correct. If one of the kids really does want to be a doctor, then he's going to see things much differently than the kid who wants to be a musician.
Ok my family gonna liv3 in a soup kitchen tmrw.
Thx for the advice man.
Have you asked your children if they'd rather have more time with you than have money in the future? There are more aspects to parenting than giving them a good education.
PS: You do realise the message you're giving them is that money is more important than family relationships?
Im soo sorry. ill stop working right away :DD
Working like this was a temporary seasonal thing by the way.
Well that's a different matter entirely: the impression I gained from your post was that this was a longterm situation. I didn't suggest you stop working straight away and neither has anyone else: that response indicates to me that you see the world in extremes because obviously there's a huge difference between working long hours and not working at all
That's a sweet thing to do. Not to be negative but are they picking courses that can be paid off in a few years? I remember talking to parents in my town who worked long hours to save money for their kids college and in the end all that money they saved was just a small drop in the bucket and came nowhere near covering the interest the college debt left their kids with.
If the children are wanting to further their education, chances are they had decent enough grades in high school to be given a scholarship, and most colleges not only have scholarship programs, but they also have Pell Grants that you don't have to pay back, if they refrain from taking out financial aid which of the inevitable they have to pay back, they could probably get by with scholarships and the Pell Grant and maybe have Dad and Mom throw a thousand at it per semester or even year, all they have to do is buy used books, take them back to the fairs at the end of each semester, live at home while they go to school and not be frivolous with their cash, if all those steps are taken this guy could probably get by working 4 or 5 days a week