Is it normal to think i'm bisexual even though i'm more attracted to men?

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I'm around 13 to 18 years old and I've recently begun questioning my sexuality, I've always thought of myself as Bisexual since I am really interested in a relationship with females but, I cannot get aroused at the thought of women, no matter how hard I try.

And due to this, I've considered just saying I'm Hetero even though I would love a girlfriend.

I'm scared that I might just subconsciously be wanting to be apart of the LGBTQ+ community since I may be afraid of being excluded from people. And that I might be lying to myself to just seem like I'm apart of something. And this might be why I'm not interested in a sexual relationship with a girl. I'm really confused about myself and my future relationships.

Any advice or input would be greatly appreciated.

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  • ellnell
    4 years ago

    If you've never been attracted to a woman you're probably not bi. A relationship without sexual contact is friendship, you desire a female best friend. Many female best friends hold hands and such and are affectionate towards each other, I think close friendship with another woman like that is what you miss.
    If you need to make up that you're LGBTQ+ in order to feel part of something you need to find yourself and discover whom you are.
    What are your hobbies and interests? There are many things you can be part of, join an activity for example or a fandom or both.

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    • _her_
      4 years ago

      I have been attracted to females like romantically, I've had hard crushes on them if that helps. And I do pursue my talents and am apart of several fandoms, but I'm mainly concerned about my label and why I feel so conflicted about my preferences.

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      • Ellenna
        4 years ago

        Stop worrying about finding a label! Nobody except yourself is forcing you to choose your sexuality at your age. And what does that age range mean anyway? 13 is very young and so is 18 to be trying to make big decisions: wait and see who you are attracted to at any given time and FORGET THE LABELS!

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        • _her_
          4 years ago

          Thank you! I'll try and wait to see what happens with my relationships, I'm just a bit paranoid since almost everyone my age has a significant other and I guess I just feel a bit left out. Thank you again!

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          • Ellenna
            4 years ago

            Not being in a relationship at 13 or 18 or whatever age you are is NORMAL! How many of those other people your age are in happy relationships and how many are with someone just to be with anyone? At well as giving up the labels, please stop comparing yourself to others, they are both totally pointless exercises, so stop wasting your youthful energy on them!

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      • ellnell
        4 years ago

        I see. As you get older you'll probably figure it out, there is no need to rush and labels aren't really important. Just go on what you feel.

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  • Grunewald
    4 years ago

    This post makes me feel sad. When I was a kid, people talked about homosexuality, sure, but it wasn't presented as a life orientation question that you had to ask yourself. And so that was one thing I didn't worry about. Now, I also like guys and girls (predominantly guys though). But I don't make an identity out of it. I just let it be. I had many, many identity questions to ask myself at your age (and most of them were pointless, and I messed myself up by worrying too much), but because of this, I thankfully had one less reason to worry than you have.

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  • momgetthecamera
    4 years ago

    don't touch yourself or watch anything vulgar. This is how you find your true sexuality

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  • DDJenny
    4 years ago

    Don’t worry about labels. You don’t have to be one thing or another. Just go with your feelings. My first sexual experiences were with my best friend (another female) and I never thought of it as being gay or bi. It was just about liking her. I had boyfriends, and even have been married to wonderful man for over 25 years (with many other female relationships along the way). I don’t consider myself a label - not bi, not gay, not straight. I am just me! Sure, bisexual may define my sexuality, but my sexuality doesn’t define me! My advice is don’t define yourself by what or who you are attracted to or how deep that attraction goes. Just follow your feelings whoever they take you.

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  • Bazinga
    4 years ago

    Why not have a boyfriend and a girlfriend? Take your clothes off for whichever one you're in the mood for whenever you're in the mood.

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  • perfectxsilence
    4 years ago

    Sounds like you're straight

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