Is it normal to seek substances out of frustration and chronic boredom?

It is just the samething everyday, extreme boredom, dissatisfaction and disappointments with real life things that should bring an ecstatic joy to a person is absolutely tasteless, pointless and waste of time for me, and one time i smoked marijuana at 18 years of my age i was so convinced that i felt so content and happy with this intense rush that this constant stressful feeling not only just went away, but also so amplified my feelings of happiness that i literally felt a divine being make a special surprise for me. Maybe it's because i lack sophisticated and connections with people on a deep level which in my case i barely socially interact despite wanting, and romance dreams which feel good and real and then when reality hits me so hard of being doomed with single life. I guess there's no therapist, or anyone to convince me not to seek or use substances and i'll have hundreds to thousands ways of making rationalization gearing me towards continuing to seek and use, and be in denial of possible consequences such as psychosis and schizophrenia despite knowing the possible risk and that there's no such thing "but it won't happen to me" What's wrong with me >_<

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  • Hello, I’m sorry you’re going through this. First I want to post the disclaimer that I’m not a medical or psychiatric professional, this is not medical advice, and I’m not qualified to diagnose or treat any condition.

    Your substance dependance is definitely not normal or healthy nor is your chronic boredom. Based on your desire for personal relationships and your emotional tone, I would rule out your chronic boredom being caused by antisocial traits, such as sociopathy, or an asocial personality type, such as schizoid. That suggests the root cause may be depression, learned helplessness, or some kind of oversocialization.

    For loneliness I would suggest making some platonic friends. If you don’t get out much maybe try to find normal, non-sketchy people online who share your hobbies and interests. I’ve found the best romantic relationships also evolve from close friendships. You could try a dating app but this should be a supplement, not your main strategy, since dating apps are cringe and unreliable.

    If you’re a man, you likely have a latent desire for power and autonomy that’s not being satisfied. Aggression can be channeled in a healthy way through hobbies such as lifting weights or martial arts. You can get autonomy from starting a business, gardening, and not following rules too closely (for example trying to be super punctual at work all the time).

    If you’re a woman then forming quality personal relationships is more important than power/autonomy.

    If you desire adrenaline or thrill seeking you could try something like skydiving or climbing. This will also force you to get out, socialize, and exercise more.

    Hope this gave you some ideas about satisfying the underlying desires instead of just attacking the addiction.

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  • Jesus, just snort some damn coke already.

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  • Yeah. That’s what drugs are for.

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