Is it normal to not vibe with someone that everyone else gets along with?

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This always seems to happen to me. More often than not there is someone (either at a party or a hangout) that everyone in the group seems to love but for some reason they rub me the wrong way. I won't hate them or anything but they'll say certain things that put me off or their demeanor/personality will be off putting to me. I always feel weird when this happens and I always think there is something is wrong with me when it does.

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  • Tommythecaty
    3 years ago

    In order to get along with everybody you have to be quite fake.

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    • howaminotmyself
      3 years ago

      That was my first thought, they are fake. I doubt people even know the real person behind the personable generic face of a people pleaser.

      I get it, I tend to not like people who appear very surface. Sadly it is how most people operate. Too afraid to be themselves in public. And those who should tone it down some tend to speak far too loudly.

      The world is so out of balance.

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      • Tommythecaty
        3 years ago

        I just think that in order to get along with absolutely everyone a person would have to have no genuine opinions, saying whatever suits them at the time. Whatever a person wants to hear.

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  • RoseIsabella
    3 years ago

    Hmm, I dunno. Is the person just really superficially charming, like does the person sound like they're trying too hard?

    What kinda shit do they say that puts you off?

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    • Jonnyb123
      3 years ago

      Well a lot of the time is has to do with ego and them being arrogant and stuff. I don't care if someone is happy with themselves or are talking to me about their accomplishments, but its when it starts to get into bragging territory is when they lose me. Also manners are a big thing for me and a lot of the time these people don't really have any common curtesy.

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      • bbrown95
        3 years ago

        I think this is very normal. I've never been a fan of arrogant blowhards and mannerless jerks, either.

        I personally think it's better that you don't like this behavior, than it would be if you thought it was normal and tolerated it (especially the lacking common courtesy part). A lot of people fail to see how there's a lot of insecurity behind arrogant behavior, and also how the image people try to put on is not always accurate with who they really are. A lot of people mistake "confidence" with arrogance, for example.

        Also, keep in mind that while it could be that everyone *appears* to get along with these people, what they really think about them behind closed doors could be completely different. The thing about people like this is that they attract people of a similar quality, including very fake people.

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  • bbrown95
    3 years ago

    Yes, very normal, and there's nothing wrong with you. It can be your intuition picking up on something the others are not. If you get a bad feeling about someone, follow your gut.

    Personally, every time I've gotten a bad feeling about someone and nobody else seemed to notice anything wrong, that feeling has always been right. I just get this feeling that I shouldn't trust or get too close to them, and it usually turns out there's a good reason for it, as more often than not, I end up finding out those people are two-faced and generally not trustworthy or quality people. Even when I have decided to give them the benefit of the doubt, they have never failed to prove me right about them.

    On the rare occasion I've gotten alarm bells in my head and a pit in my stomach that told me I needed to get the hell away from someone ASAP, my intuition has been right as well. When one of my friends got a new boyfriend, I felt really uneasy from the time I first met him. He hadn't done anything to cause this feeling, so I tried to give him the benefit of the doubt, but couldn't shake the feeling that I just needed to get the hell away from him. It turns out he was a manipulator and an abuser, and also a criminal who couldn't seem to stop getting into trouble. The guy seriously gave me the creeps all along, but then it turned out he'd had several restraining orders against him for harassing, stalking, and abusing prior girlfriends, and was doing the same to my friend before she cut ties and filed a restraining order.

    Follow your intuition. It is almost never wrong. There is nothing wrong with you.

    If it isn't so much a bad gut feeling as it is you don't care for their personality, there's also nothing wrong with that. Some people click better with some than others, and there are some very well-liked people I find off-putting or don't really click with as well.

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  • SwickDinging
    3 years ago

    Yeah, I hate it when this happens. It makes you feel like you're crazy.

    There's nothing wrong with you. You don't have to like anyone, you're your own person. Just be polite and friendly.

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    • Jonnyb123
      3 years ago

      It's only happened a handful of times to me but I hate it every time cause it makes me feel like I'm the weird one. I always kept an open mind when I hung around these people but every time I was always wanting to leave lol.

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  • BatterMilk
    3 years ago

    It sounds that you might be jealous that somebody is getting most of the attention. Listen, sometimes people might come off as too good to be true and that's ok. It is best to get to know that person instead of just jumping to conclusions.

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    • Jonnyb123
      3 years ago

      I don't dislike the person (who ever it is) but I seem to see/feel things in certain people that rub me the wrong way, which may not be the same for others. The attention they get is not my concern at all. It's the feelings I get around that person that others may not and the fact that I am the only one that has these feelings is what gets me confused lol. Most of the time they're not bad people at all but something inside me just bothers me about them (i.e. they're arrogant, have a big ego, etc).

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      • BatterMilk
        3 years ago

        If you feel that way then it is best to distance yourself from this person if they rub you in any wrong way. It is best to keep these feelings to yourself, so you don't create any unnecessary drama.

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        • Jonnyb123
          3 years ago

          Oh of course LOL.

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  • my_life_my_way
    3 years ago

    Usually in a group of friends there will be at least one person who publicly vocalises their dislike for my, even when I get along amazingly with everyone else. So I get it.

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    • Jonnyb123
      3 years ago

      A lot of the time it's not even that I dislike them or think they're bad people though. I guess it's just our personalities/values don't mesh well I guess.

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    • [Old Memory]
      3 years ago

      You have one of those personalities where you have to be smart/aware to understand/appreciate, otherwise (like on here lol) people confuse your behavior on being a shitty person

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      • my_life_my_way
        3 years ago

        Oh hell yeah, you just have to be a genius to get me. I can’t help it if I’m God’s favourite. 🤷🏻‍♀️

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        • [Old Memory]
          3 years ago

          Nobody's ever called me a genius before 😏

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          • my_life_my_way
            3 years ago

            And who says you understand me? I am a multi faceted person with a diverse and intelligent personality 🙃

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            • [Old Memory]
              3 years ago

              I wouldn't say I know you that well yet, but I have already assessed that much about you

              You say things that seem bad on the surface, but the way you say them shows more than the surface value, and I really like figuring things out

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  • bigbudchonga
    3 years ago

    I don't mean this to insult, but have you ever been tested for autism?

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    • Jonnyb123
      3 years ago

      Lol nah man. Pretty confidant I don't have it.

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  • GaelicPotato
    3 years ago

    Sounds more like jealousy than anything.

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    • Jonnyb123
      3 years ago

      It's not though. I don't care about them getting all the attention. It has to do more with me not seeing something in a particular person that others don't appear to see.

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