Is it normal to not like my children..love but not like

Don't feel like you are a bad mother or that you are not normal. So many Moms go through this.

Get help from a professional, or talk to friends and family about it, or write out your feelings. Just getting the negative out can feel good. Try doing something different, even if you just don't feel like doing anything, force yourself out and try something new.

Try playing with your kids instead of only giving them what they need to survive. Children have amazing little minds that don't last forever, appreciate them while you have them.

I think you need to work out a deal with the father to get more support. Keep in touch and follow treatment with your doctor around the PPD. Reach out to other family - you know you have a problem & have stated it clearly.

You are not a bad mom. You are an overwhelmed mom, with 2 very young children. Try as much as you can to not to treat them badly. That will only bring itself back on you. But do build your support systems. And use them to help you be the mom you obviously want to be to these beautiful children.

No. My mom was like you, it sucked. And the way you're acting probably has something to do with their attention-seeking behavior.

Being a mum is hard work and when your on your own its even harder. None of us are perfect I have 2 kids one is only a baby but the other is almost 3 and when hes being good hes the nicest little man u could ask for but when hes playing up he drives me nuts! sometimes I hate myself for shouting at him and the way I feel, do you have anyone who you can talk to when your feeling down?

Dude. You're a single mom with two young children. I don't know how you manage to not be completely insane. You know what I do when I'm at the end of the rope with my kids? I try to think about what they'll be like when they're adults and how they'll remember me as a mom. It helps some. Also think about how quickly they'll grow. Before you blink they'll be in school.

I do suggest you go on birth control, though, or even get a tubal ligation. You don't need anymore kids.

Yeah, it's normal. My dad didn't like me. Lol!

Kids are really stressful, especially if they are a handful or special needs like mine. I completely understand what you are going through. I go through life daily wishing it was the next day or next year. I do feel like I am in prison. I cannot take my child out, if I do many hours of screaming and defiance afterward. I do not have depression but I still feel very similar. For all that judge without being in the same situation or worse, I think that is sad. A bunch of judgmental and hateful comments will not help this woman. Let me explain my life. I can totally empathize with you. I am a single mother by choice. My ex was crazy and threatened my life several times so I cut him out of our lives.

I thought my life was blessed with the birth of my son. Boy, I was completely and utterly wrong. He was a cryer as a baby but around 9 months old, my son turned on me. I thought, possibly he was a boy and a rascal. I did have him checked out though, just in case. His tantrums were over the top. He would cry for 7 hours straight, nothing or no one could console him. If it ended with the 1 or 2 incidents, I would think maybe he was in pain. However, he is 4 years old now and he's not quite crying for 7 hours but 3-4 hours straight and not the typical tantrums. It would be because a flower was purple and that bothered him so much but until you could change that flower into another color, it would bother him. He would bring it up over and over again for days. If you took the flower away, he would still obsess about it. I am only using that example but many others like that over the years. He would make a big deal about everything. He was seen by psychologist since 16 months.

He regularly attempted to hurt himself or others. He gave himself a concussion at the sitters where he hit his head on the concrete floor multiple times and was taken to the emergency room. When he turned 3, he got worse and snapped at everyone. When he turned 4, he started using toys as weapons to hurt people when he was in his rage. I have taken 3 parenting classes to see if it was a issue I might have had but everything in the classes reinforced that I was doing the right thing. I rarely raise my voice at my son but he does need to be spoken to sternly or he does not listen. I have to control everything around him. If he gets too happy, he goes into a crazy mode soon after that and he will not listen to a word anyone says. He has been kicked out of 2 pre-schools in less than a year and working on his 3rd expulsion. In a given week, he has either hit, bit or thrown objects at 20 people. His latest issue is to mark his territory by either peeing or pooping on objects or people's houses, blaming it on someone or pets. He has alienated himself from any friends and kids at his pre-school now ignore him. He does ask why nobody wants to play with him and I have to explain that people want to be treated kindly but he does not get it.

He has been on 3 differently medication, last being risperdol, but that is still not helping the violence and aggression. He has no definitive diagnosis because he is so young. He just turned 4. I give him lots of attention and love. I tried the sticker charts with multi level award system, but does not work with my son because although he wants those things, he does not want to do the work required. They are not hard. If he achieves 5 stickers for good behaviors, he gets to play with the phone, 20 chuck e cheeses. He's only played with the phone 7 times in the last 7 months and chuck e cheese twice. He's been kicked out of every birthday party, including his own. He just does not get invited anymore. I realize it is normal for children to misbehave sometimes but my child misbehaves, most of the time. I have tried to have friends and family watch him but either his behavior gets worse or they give up because after hours of trying to restrain him from hitting they get tired. My child rarely gets tube time and the only thing he really watches are pre-school programs if he does.

He has been evaluated by the department of education but because of his intelligence, he did not get in their program. The special service coordinator also said, "it is impossible for a child to be that bad." Our case was dismissed even after an appeal.

Frustration level with your children, I totally get it. You may want to separate the time you spend with each child. You may get a better perspective and emotional bond with them. Sometimes, that one on one attention is what the child and parent needs. One of the parenting classes (Incredible Years(also a book) I attended called for "floor time", spending time on the floor playing blocks with the kids, letting them be as creative as possible without correcting them. I could be wrong. From reading your blog, I do not get the impression that your child is special needs.

I hope that my comment was helpful and did not offend anyone.

I think loverofbunnies just doesn't understand depression or what it's like to be depressed. It might be a good idea for you to consult with a psychologist or psychiatrist, though, if it doesn't improve or if you can't live with it.

It should wear off eventually, though. According to wikipedia, postpardum depression lasts a few months to a year.

Tina?!

No this isn't normal. If are not happy and don't love you children then maybe you should give them to there father. If you feel like your going to hurt them some day because of how you feel towards them then you need to give them up. You can see them now and then and word of advise GET HELP! It seem your having a stage were you feel empty and confusion but I know deep down you love your children and hope nothing bad would happen to them but right now you seem depress and don't want any part of there lives as of right now. I'm sorry to say that your a bad mother. If you want to BE a good mother then you should think what is best for them.