Is it normal to not care about others?

I mean, for people I don’t know. I don’t see any reason why I should care about someone I don’t even know. And I don’t say it to be mean, like, I’ll pretend to care and stuff so I don’t hurt someone’s feelings. I just can’t make myself care for someone.

And it’s bad sometimes I guess. Because I question if I even care about my own family or even love them. Because I can’t feel it. And I guess that’s part of the reason why I’m single as well. I had people who liked me and stuff... but I never felt anything back. And I didn’t want to date them if I didn’t love them, ya know? That would be wrong. It would just hurt them.

I feel like I have the inability to feel those two things. For example.. my pet I had for a few years died in my arms a month ago and I felt nothing... I want to believe deep down inside I do care but I just can’t feel it. I believe deep down inside I loved that cat. I would spend time with her a lot and always took care of her. I guess I showed the cat love and care without really feeling it myself. I never neglected her or anything. So I guess I do care. But her death didn’t seem to really faze me. And I’m still questioning why. Same with when a family member died before. I didn’t care about that either. It was my uncle who died and we were pretty close. He raised me through half my childhood and lived with us. I seriously don’t know why I can’t feel anything for it. It’s really concerning to me.

And other things that I don’t care about, I don’t bother to even give any attention too. I guess those things are what I truly don’t care about.

Is It Normal?
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  • You can’t create feeling that has never been there. And now you notice it in others interactions. You feel normal in being the way you are, as you’ve never known anything else. So seeing this in others will make you feel as though they are actually the ones that are odd.

    It’s not your lack of feeling that you question, it’s the ones they have that are so curious to you.

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  • Is it a possibility you could be emotionally numb for some reason? I went through something kind of similar while I was on antidepressants and anti anxiety medication. I felt numb and it kind of scared me, because I wanted to feel *something*.

    Otherwise, the fact that you want to care is a good thing.

    Perhaps you have difficulty relating to others?

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    • Maybe, I honestly am unsure.

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  • Some people are just less sensitive and empathetic than others, I’m the same as you. Also most people who are hyper sensitive to other people’s emotions and death are usually just faking because they feel like they need to make themselves look like good people.

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  • And now when I think of it more. I guess I do care if I’m even pretending to care for someone’s feelings.

    I don’t know. I’m kinda lost on it.

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  • I think you are faking it. You seem to be putting too much affection in describing your relationship with your cat and uncle for a guy who gives no fuck. Maybe a guy who didn't care wouldn't bother to take CARE of a pet and throw it out. Like quite a few pet ownets do and that's why we have so many homeless animals in cities.. Or if you didn't care you would stay too detached from your uncle to ever get close - like I am for example. Finally, why did ypu CARE to write thia poat, seems tiu arw caring too much about not caring enough. BS dude

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    • I left a comment explaining more. I wouldn’t expect you to understand. I can’t even explain it ver well. It’s not BS. I know I care about someone or something if I put effort into it or them. I just can’t feel it. Thats what I’m trying to say

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