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I really like this girl yet i dont know why she hates me at all. But i still really like her. Does this happen a lot? Am i alone?
uhm.. i'm just giving examples lubu99. If you THINK that you're not like that then there are things that sure you must be proud of with yourself. Maybe you're not aware that you a have cute smile or traits that make her feel good about you but it turns out that she didn't know what she feels. As long as you're not doing any negative acts, then there is no reason for you to be afraid in asking her what makes her hate you, okay? You have to know that first.
Ok, I have a really good story that sounds similar to this...
I'm a girl.. and 3 years ago, me and my family moved away from where I grew up.. and I met this guy at the local youth group.. I was instantly attracted to him.. he was gorgeous, funny, and never failed to put a smile on my face.. I would say hi to him every time I saw him, but he never acknowledged it unless I asked my brother to tell him.. after a few months, I asked him out.. he said no... then I tried to be friends with him and he pretty much shut me out.. I kept trying and trying to be friends with him, but it never worked.. So many nights of crying myself to sleep.. So many conversations with my parents about how difficult guys are and how I shouldn't be so wrapped up in this guy.. And I'm not even kidding, he HATED me.. he got so annoyed with me, he had his cousins (who were my friends) tell me to back off.. he was so annoyed with me and wouldn't even bother trying to put up with me... he absolutely hated me... one time, he even hid when he saw me because he knew I was gonna try flirting with him or whatever.. which, of course, made me depressed.. I almost killed myself because of it... but I had asked him out a total of 4 times until, a year later, I moved 300 miles away.. And was still madly in love with him.. I thought about him every day, carried his picture around with me, and wrote letters I knew I'd never send to him.. another year later, I came to visit and was still as in love with him as ever.. decided to move back, and become his friend. Took so much hard work to even become his friend.. pretending to be interested in the things he liked, including bands I've never heard of like Breaking Benjamin.. which I looked up the day he told me about them, and instantly got 8 of their songs so he would think I was cool.. and so we'd have something to talk about... But I became his friend, and that was good enough for me... I was perfectly content with that.. we actually became really close friends.. he was able to open up to me.. he also knew that I was still in love with him (cuz it was incredibly obvious) And guess what? Now he's my boyfriend ;) We're so madly in love now and even discussing marriage.. Perseverance is key.. I wanted him, so I got him..
Try being friends with her.. and if that's all it ever is, try to accept it.. Be content with only being friends, and who knows.. it might become something more..
Best of luck my friend!
You might want to ask yourself why you love her
and of course why she hates you.
that sounds so processean. I love it. No wait, I hate it. Who am I now? Satan,Lucifer, Jesus or That other guy? Oh no! I lost my identity! How will I ever go on?
I say good riddance. I never really liked that myself anyway.
Stop expecting me to be who I was!
That man is dead! And I swear to god, I am going to put a slug in you if you try resurrecting him! You hear me? You space mongoose!?
I agree with Quiblum.. You have to know what's the reason why she hates you. Us girls, sometimes we tend to hate someone even though he's okay, cute, funny and etc. just to cover our feelings. Call it a defense mechanism dude, maybe because she doesn't know yet how she feels for you or she already know and yet you're not being extrovert. I think she's getting impatient. lol. I hope she feels the same way. :)
that`s exactly what i wanted to say! well, i think you should figure out why she hates you. you could also confront her about it directly; if it`s a legit reason you can improve yourself and it will get you points for being straightforward with her and improve your relationship. either way you don`t lose anything, except maybe a bit of worthless pride C: