Is it normal to let my boyfriend sleep over all the time?

I am a female in college and I live in a house with 2 other girls I've known for a while. I am the only one with a boyfriend, who I've been dating for just under 2 years and he is also good friends with the two girls. We both have the same major at the same college and therefore spend most of our day on campus studying. After studying late, he usually comes and sleeps over almost every day as it is a 5 minute walk to campus as opposed to his 30 minute drive home. We all have our own individual rooms and there isn't a living room so he just comes into my room and we sleep. This has been going on for 5 months now and my roommates have not said anything about it until recently. Recently they called a house meeting and in a very rehearsed manner proceeded to ask me if my boyfriend lived here and then suggested he should help pay THEM for rent/utilities even though most utilities are covered by our landlord. The only utilities we pay are wifi and electricity, and neither goes up because of him. The wifi stays the same and I'm using the lamp in my room whether he is there or not. We are both aware that he spends a lot of time here so that's why he tends to buy food for both my roommates and refuse when they offer him money. He also buys house goods, such as toilet paper and paper towels for the house without anyone asking him. We both agree that he is over a lot and should help out, but buying them meals every now and then and goods for the house seemed to be sufficient. Is it normal for a girlfriend to let her boyfriend sleep over all the time without contributing to rent?

I never thought it would be an issue, but them brining it up has me doubting myself if it's okay to have my boyfriend over all the time.

yes it's normal to let him sleep over all the time without paying anything extra 6
yes it's normal, but he should help the house pay rent/utilities 7
no it's not normal to let your boyfriend sleep over all the time 0
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  • RoseIsabella

    Maybe they are just lonely and jealous. Does he leave the toilet seat up all the time, because that's completely gross and annoying. Do they have any other specific complaints?

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    • No they never had any other complaints and never leaves the toilet seat up, thanks for the input!

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  • Ratmansbitch

    I can completely understand their concern. Yeah it's nice of him to buy food and toiletries but if he's staying over practically every night then he should be paying rent. It's not fair on your roommates to be chipping in on rent when a fourth person should be paying but isn't.

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  • Friedchiken

    If he's just spending the night it'd be pretty ridiculous to expect him to help pay the rent. However if he hangs out before going to bed or before leaving in the morning for a few hours it's understandable.

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  • Nickvey

    fair is fair in love and war. in this life you pay to play, however because he shares your room he pays you half of your rent. but the others would reject fairness and claim he created a new living space by existing under the roof, the best way to resolve the issue is by mediation of a third party if the other two agree to mediation all parties are bound by law to accept . by law the boyfriend has no legal right to spend the night as a guest much less a permanent guest, offer half the gas money he would spend driving home as a fair compensation. it might be satisfactory, Another solution would be for him to move in next year paying a fair rent as tenement of the house.
    I missed the part where he left the seat up. sombody has men issues.

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