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I have asked her to control it but it continues and I am struggling to live with this problem. What are my options.?
I had this peoblem with my mother, or rather my father did, and now it's in my own home. We've been married 41 years and it's been getting steadily worse. To leave at my age is seriously a hard decission to take. Thanks for response.
What Rose said plus:
https://www.aa.org/pages/en_US/read-the-big-book-and-twelve-steps-and-twelve-traditions
The Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous has a lot of information for those who live with alcoholics. It will have suggestions on how you may want to approach her.
I wish you the best.
Check out these.
https://adultchildren.org/
https://al-anon.org/
http://coda.org/
You were attracted to, and attracted an alcoholic, because that's what you grew up with, it was is familiar to you.
Depends whether or not she actually wants to stop. If she does and she's genuinely struggling then I'd suggest seeking professional help to try and save her.
If she'd happy with the situation and makes no effort to stop then I'm afraid the only sensible option is to leave her.
You can't change her, you can only change your response to her behavior, which may in time lead to her changing.
I suggest you check out AlAnon, which is for friends and family of alcoholics: I did years ago on the recommendation of a friend and although it's all a bit daggy and I had to ignore all the god stuff, it helped me a great deal.
My boyfriend does the same, he knows i hate it so he did cut back a little wich I suppose is something
She must be Auzzie. No not drunk every-night, that's bad!
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