Is it normal to have racial preferences?
I’m very concerned because I told someone I was interested in years ago who happened to be black that I had a slight preference for blacks and asians, but was still interested in other races and ultimately didn’t really impact much. I’m white, for context. He didn’t seem to be upset at the time but I’m not sure if that’s changed. Now remembering the conversation years later makes me very uneasy because I’m concerned I sounded like I was just boiling everything down to his race and that was the only reason why I was attracted to him. Was I doing that? I don’t really exclude other races since if I’m in love with someone I don’t think it should ultimately matter but I’m really worried about veering into fetish territory. It’s not like I’m gonna avoid interracial relationships if I do fall in love with someone of another race because that’d be stupid but I’m really worried about making potential partners uncomfortable and I really want to fix that. I don’t want to fall into the other extreme and walk on eggshells either.