Is it normal to have no emotions when i am supposed to?

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The guy i liked for 2 years just told me yesterday before he left for the States, that he thinks that we should just be friends. That's one mental blow to my mind. It was then followed by him telling me that there's something on between him and my cousin. Two blows within a few seconds and you know what i did? I kept telling him AND my cousin "It's alright, It's okay, It's not your fault" and kept smiling and laughing all through the night, with my heart and mind BLANK. I even messaged them both that i am happy for them so that they wouldn't feel guilty on my account.

The problem was.....when i went back home and laid in the dark, i still couldnt feel anything. I even WANT sorrow or dissapointment to come but it didnt! Then i realised that even when i'm alone, my heart is still locked away and my "walls" are just standing too strong for even me to break. I am absolutely emotionless.

Its what happened yesterday that got me so disgusted with myself that i.....couldn't... show the world what i really feel. Always trapped behind a smiling mask that fools everyone including my family.

Am i normal? Please help! Thanks so much for reading this :)

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  • howaminotmyself
    13 years ago

    I agree, you are in shock. You can be numb from emotional pain as your brain tries to wrap itself around the reality.

    Be careful of the walls you build. They always come crashing down at the most inopportune time. It is okay to show emotion when you are hurt. We are conditioned that this is a sign of weakness but in reality, these feeling gives us power.

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  • Mr-Time
    13 years ago

    Pretty much the same thing happened to me. I'm usually quite good at containing emotions. My long term girlfriend broke up with me and then told me she had been cheating on me. I went completely numb. I couldn't feel anything for about a month. Then the emotions came crashing back pain, anger, betrayal, hatred. I took about another seven months to fully control myself again. So in answer, yes its normal and it will be hard for you but it is EXTREMELY important to find someone to truly express yourself to. My best friend and i think almost exactly alike and i little by little told him my thoughts and feeling and it did help. Sometimes all you need is to talk to someone.

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  • nelipot
    13 years ago

    I know how you feel.
    My girlfriend broke up with me, on Christmas, via e-mail. Emotions? Nope, nada, zilch. I felt slightly relieved, and that's all. Maybe you liked the idea of him, the way he would be in your imagination here he goes out with you and there's a love story all around, not the guy who leaves the country and falls for your cousin.

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    she has emotions she just doesnt show them jesus christ are you guys idiots or what?

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  • nanimeow
    13 years ago

    For me I'd like to see the person I like be happy, they don't have to be with me. I think it is a sign of maturity and self comfort.

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  • Smileyave6
    13 years ago

    Well, when something like that just happened you can't really feel the pain just the shock that all this actually happened, kinda like when it is the last day of school, you don't actually feel like it is, until it is over, you probably will start to feel your emotions ( bad or good.) once you let the fact sink into your mind. i hope i helped, i think it is completley normal.

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  • jreed1
    13 years ago

    lol its ok i am the exact same way but ive had that atitude my whole life, what i sugest is finding someone who just makes you happy whether for same ideals or fucking funny because peeps like us can have either really cool lifes where the dumb shit dont bother us or we can end up sitting alone in a chair with cats.... lots of cats

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    that doesnt make you emotionless it just means you arent showing your emotions there is a huge difference between the two and its obvious you arent emotionless you just dont want to share your emotions probably because its been a shock to you but yeah dont worry your not emotionless.

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  • jreed1
    13 years ago

    personally i just smoke weed and hang out with buddys to have fun but fun is what you need and dont worrie bout all the other shit :)

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