Is it normal to hate my partners dog?

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I cannot stand my partners dog.

I love animals, I have my own cat and dog but this dog.. it smells like off milk and Cheetos, I have paid for professional cleaners countless times and it doesn't last 24 hours before the stench returns. Editing to add yes we have taken it to the vet, 3 different vets many times.

It doesn't know it's name, it cannot learn to sit or shake, it sh*ts inside at least 3 times a week, it jumps on the furniture despite knowing it's not allowed.
It bites it's toenails so annoyingly loud even when they have been cut by a vet to ensure they aren't long.
It grunts when it sleeps, constantly.
It runs out the door the second it is opened and does not recall.
It bites my dogs back legs and growls at him if he plays with any of their toys.
It also pisses on all the dog beds and in the dog bowls.

I've had dogs my whole life and trained them with no issues, my dog is intelligent and understands commands and respects me and the house rules. Editing to add we have had two trainers work with him both group sessions and one on one, I've spent over $1000 on training.

My poor dog is now having an awful life living with this disgusting disobedient dog, he feels as though he is in trouble constantly and I think he is getting depressed.

It makes me so angry that I wish it were dead. I don't know what to do, I feel so guilty that I hate it but I cannot deal anymore :(

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  • dirtybirdy
    6 years ago

    The smell and toe biting is a sign of skin issues, likely a type of yeast infection. That needs to be addressed. Don't hate the dog, it's the owners fault that the poor thing isn't properly cared for.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      6 years ago

      Oh and sorry I did forget to mention that my partner cannot smell his dogs smell, he believes it's normal but I am adamant it is not. It could just be the breed (wire haired fox terrier), I have only ever had Rottweilers and as they have a double coat they hold onto the fresh bathed scent for up to 3+ weeks.

      And please don't say the dog is not properly cared for, we do care for our animals, yes I may hate the dog but I'm putting in genuine effort to care for it in hopes that it will grow out of this behaviour and become a loved family pet.

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      • dirtybirdy
        6 years ago

        I mean no disrespect, im not saying you/he are a bad pet owner, i should have mentioned that i have a blue pitbull and they are known for skin issues. I've had her to the vet several times and finally seem to have it under control.... for now. She had itchy skin, hot spots and she would chew her feet,, a change of diet and climate helps. But it still comes and goes. Its not her fault. I do my best and it seems to help for a time.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          6 years ago

          My rottie gets hot spots often, I know the struggle!

          After your comment today I looked up the symptoms of various yeast infections and he doesn't align with them other than the smell. The wire haired foxy does not scratch at all, when he is biting his nails it's not his feet just his nails, it's as though they are too long which is why I initially got them professionally cut but he still bites his nails down, he has no sores or redness (we recently had him shaved now the warmed weather is coming so I am able to inspect him all over), apparently the smell can predominately come from the ears, but it's the strongest on his back and stomach.

          I genuinely think it's the smell of the dog due to his fur type since my partner grew up with the breed and he says the dog doesn't smell at all, but myself and our friends can. It's very baffling!

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      6 years ago

      He has been taken to three vets. My old housemate was a vet nurse and repeatedly took him to her vet when we lived with her because she even found it bizarre. As I said, I don't want to hate it as I love my partner but I have tried my hardest.
      I've had trainers and vets come to him, to no avail.

      It doesn't help my partner cannot discipline him, when he does something naughty my partner lets out a soft gasp rather than a sharp and short 'ah' or 'no'.

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  • Pumpurrnickel
    6 years ago

    You seem to have justified reasons for hating it. Normal, I would say.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      6 years ago

      Thanks Recluded, good to know I'm not just a closet psycho dog hater haha

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  • Ellenna
    6 years ago

    And what does the dog's owner have to say about all this? You do realise none of this is the dog's fault?

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      6 years ago

      When he is having a positive day he just says, oh let's get another dog trainer in. We've taken the dog to group sessions and had one on one. Do we fork out another $1000 on sessions with another trainer?

      And when he is frustrated, usually on a day when the dog poops inside (he is only inside to sleep and is only inside for 4.5 hours) he will tell me he wishes he was never given the dog (his Dad got the dog for him as a birthday present for his 30th, the dog was never discussed so it was a weird gift).

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  • rayb12
    6 years ago

    Oh no, no that dog can't stay in the house. It has to live in a seperate house. This isn't about you and ur boyfriend its about your dogs and this dog. Don't do this to them. Not fair

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      6 years ago

      I agree, I've been trying for three years we've had two different trainers and three vets and I'm just exhausted.

      This dog has become a very large problem that not even professionals have been able to fix.

      The only thing I cannot blame on the dog is discipline because I am on the only one that gives it, my partner will let out a soft gasp when the dog does something wrong, rather than a short and sharp 'ah' or 'no' so the poor thing is totally unable to learn what is bad.

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