Is it normal to feel like this? (long and vague description)

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Hello,

I've never really thought about mental health until my friend was diagnosed with clinical anxiety and had to take months off work. After chatting with him about his issues, I started to think about mine. Although I don't have issues frequently, I do want to address them for the future.

Basically, I find that whenever I am put into situations where I cannot confidently produce good results, there is a good chance that I start to feel... a bit off?

Like, a group meeting might be going well but if a colleague points out a mistake, I will of course thank him/her and make note of it, but from there on I will be completely off my game. I'll be extremely distracted and for some strange reason, have to "clench" certain parts of my body(?) Typically it would be clenching my toes into my feet or flexing my calf muscles very tightly. This sometimes happens if I'm very nervous or if I have 0 confidence in what I'm doing(?)

Anyway, I'm wondering if this is a normal part of life or if I need to see some sort of mental health professional in case it gets worse? I don't think I've ever had a mental health "attack" but I'm finding myself unable to work properly when this sort of "clenching"/"off" feeling occurs. Typically, I'll become useless (energy sapped and fatigued) until I can catch a breather or go outside for a walk. I do quickly recover but it's still a nuisance.

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  • [Old Memory]
    4 years ago

    Sounds like issues with confrontation, the ‘clenching’ is like bracing yourself against the higher ups or people you want to impress.

    Do you feel you ever get quick to aggression when you’re talking to someone who is “below” you?

    This post reads as pretty average and normal emotions, basically you’re feeling less confident about things you aren’t confident about, which is how things should be, really. But if you feel like this inhibits you from getting things done, that’s a different story.

    The only real way to fix these reactions is to either overcompensate in work so you can feel confident about anything you present, teach yourself to feel ‘fake’ confidence for things you aren’t 100% with, or just become an unfazed person when it comes to confrontation.

    But I can only speak on the little info you gave here, if you feel like getting help would be good for you then absolutely do so. Therapy benefits anybody, you don’t have to have any “severe” reason to go.

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  • LornaMae
    4 years ago

    Short and straight answer: you sound like 3-date girl...

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  • xxLucifer
    4 years ago

    If you are doing something and someone tells you that you are doing that something wrong it can get to a person. It's human nature to want to be right and being told that you are doing something wrong can be stressful. How you respond to that stress is what's important. People respond to stress in different ways, what you describe isn't harmful to yourself or others and, in my opinion, is a healthy way of dealing with stress. I don't think you need to go to therapy, but if you aren't happy with how you are dealing with stress then you should go.

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