Is it normal to feel intense anxiety about being in relationships?

I don't know whats necessarily wrong with me, but this has always happened. Whenever I meet a girl it always goes well, but being in a relationship or starting a relationship had always been incredibly uncomfortable, riddled with anxiety.

I recently met up with a girl that I met at a party ages ago. Back then she told me she liked me and she recently told me the same, that she still likes me. I think she’s really cool, and I feel like I should date her, but I get anxiety. I feel like she’s lying. I feel like statistically were gonna break up in the end, so what’s the point. I feel like she might like me now but when we get into a relationship she will hate me. I hate this. Theres so much mental strain in a relationship and as much as society glorifies it in many cases I just want to curl up in a ball and go back to my room.

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Based on 18 votes (14 yes)
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  • PleaseTalkToMe

    Dam you sound like the hu version of me, I'm a girl who likes girls.
    At least you have someone irl who told you they like you? I cant even score a date and the whole relationship thing is extremely anxiety inducing for me too.

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    • well, at least its somewhat comforting to know i'm not alone in this. Everyone else whos in relationships seem so comfortable.

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      • Cuntsiclestick

        I've been with my boyfriend for a few years and he still has anxiety over our relationship. He's worried that I'm going to wake up one day and hate him. Especially now more than ever since his knee injury wiped out his savings(the healthcare and insurance in the United States is shit btw). I don't think I'll ever hate him.
        :)

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  • Somenormie

    Its normal feel anxious if you're in a relationship as you might not know what can happen next.

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    • Thats what I thought but at the same time other people in relationships seem so calm and collected. They seem comfortable in their relationship while i've never been comfortable in my life whilst in a relationship.

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  • Pump her and dump her. Most relationships end in failure anyway.

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  • SwickDinging

    Dude just go for it. Even if you do break up in the future, it's just life. You got to be happy with someone and share something.

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  • RoseIsabella

    What makes you think she's lying to you?

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    • idk, I just can't be convinced she can actually like me. Like logically speaking yes, she said it and theres no real reason she would lie to me. but its like being on the edge of the building and everyone saying theres an invisible barrier that would keep me from falling. Something in me can't be convinced.

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  • Clunk42

    I feel like the RUSH song, "Ghost of a Chance" applies here.

    https://youtu.be/bG0QEvaIGfQ

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    • they're a good band.

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  • LloydAsher

    Dating right now probably is best for you. Work on yourself first.

    On a personal note about relationship anxiety:

    My girlfriend is way, way too nice for my taste weirdly enough. She was abused as a kid so I can imagine why she is very submissive to me in a relationship. I still feel bad though. I feel like I just take, take, take while she is super sweet I wish she would call upon me to return the favor every once in a while.

    I try to pay for our meals, she rejects it, I try to give her oral and she rejects it. It seems that I am her first genuine boyfriend that didnt treat her as some side package.

    On an additional side note. Do some women just get off on pleasing men, as in genuine emotional or sexual relief from pleasing your partner? I have it on a lesser degree compared her.

    (Sorry OP for hijacking your thread)

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    • TheOishome

      Have you talked to her about this?

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      • LloydAsher

        I did but she just brushed off the comments. "Well I'm just a giver" idk

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