Is it normal to be loyal and kind to your loved ones ??

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I have kind and true feelings and too I am loyal with my friends and family both , But they do not care about it that whether i am loyal or kind they just want to get help from me for any kind of situation they are dealing with..... and afterwards they just pretend that i am nothing in their life.... nor i have any place in their life or heart... My friends and family both think that i am just a piece of a crap that whenever they need me they will just ask for help and when the work is just done they pretend that i am just unknown person to them...... I am suffering this kind of situation since when i was born and so my family started to compare me with people's around them. eg, brother, cousin, etc. My family always stopped me from making friends and so today also i am alone... no friends no relatives are close to me to whom i can share my feelings with... and those who are with me are just fake one.... sometimes i prefer an option to die... but then i think... Taking your own life. Interesting expression, taking it from who ? Once it's over, it's not you who'll miss it...... i just lastly want to ask one question "Is it really a bad thing to be kind and loyal to your friends and family ??"

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  • [Old Memory]
    7 years ago

    You should be kind to yourself too. It seems that your family and friend are using you. Distance yourself from them.

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  • Angelandme
    7 years ago

    Sounds like you want what you give reciprocated which is what most people I have come across want.
    I am not so easily indebted to people by gratitude,I don't understand it so maybe my I'm put will give you some insight as to why some people don't care if you're kind or loyal and don't even care about you.
    I am a selfish man who will occasionally go out of his way to help people when it doesn't inconvenience me to a degree where my own wellbeing and peace of life is at risk. If someone helps me out or has been loyal for a while I feel disgust when they ask the same of me. As if my loyalty or like or my time can be bought by deeds or words or friendship... they are the way they are and I am the way I am. People that want give and take strike me as selfish, as selfish as I am I do not care if I do something for someone, I do not expect to receive shit when I do something for someone. Why? I don't want them to feel what is perpetuated by all, this give and take, I may not be a good or righteous person, I am agnostic, maybe giving and taking isn't so bad but it's a choice I've made. I have met too many people who when they ask something of you and you don't want to do it
    They'll pull out a big as list of all the things they've done for you out of their ass and with vile and vulgar words try to control you with their past deeds and how you should repay them.
    Giving, just giving might stop these sort of people from becoming more and more common.

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  • satanniggasandpopsicle
    7 years ago

    Have you ever tried asking anybody you know for help?

    Maybe they do care for you, but cant tell if theres anything wrong with you

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  • bubsy
    7 years ago

    From what I understand, you don't feel like you're appreciated enough. And since everyone wants to feel important, I recommend you read 'How to Win Friends and Influence People'. It'll improve your relationships across the table.

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