Is it normal to be angry that i cant have children?

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I ask is it fair that I cannot have children, physically incapable because of lady health issues, when horrible people out there just keep breeding that dont even want kids, or are bad parents and other women who get abortions. I understand life isnt fair, but it just makes me so upset that naturally I am incapable. Of course adoption is always an option, but there will always be that feeling in the back of my mind of what would "my" children look like, be like? Im very sorry if this sounds selfish or anything, cause that is not my intention because when im ready I will adopt a child because I understand that there are plenty of children that deserve and need a loving home. I just wonder if its normal for me to feel so much anger over not given the option? I just really want the option like all these other women is all.

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  • MaestroJohan
    12 years ago

    I would suggest never adopting. The feeling you harbor about biological child may show and your adopted kids will pick up on them if they do. It will become a problem, as it can cause all kinds of complexes in adopted children when they think they aren't good enough, or that a "real child" of yours would be better. Which in the end would make you a bad parent to.

    Meant with no hate,
    Sincerely,
    Maestro

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  • carterjm4
    12 years ago

    The child you adopt will be your child. The looks never matter, but the heart does. You will be a great mommy :)

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  • penguin1
    12 years ago

    I know exactly how you feel. I can't have kids either. But as you wrote, there is always the option of adopting. And you know what? The child or children you adopt will be yours as long as you give them the love and caring they need.

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  • xchocoxbarx
    12 years ago

    it's normal. perfectly. and i'm sorry. i just hope that however sometime you can get rid of this anger, cuz maybe God has plans for you.
    i have a friend who can't have a kid, and she ends up adopt a kid. and now she's very happy and never think that the kid is not her biological son.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    This is totally normal, I am sorry

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  • TyLee
    12 years ago

    Of course it is normal to be upset! I would be too! I suggest not giving up. I don't know your exact situation but the doctor told my grandma she would never be able to have children and she had two. Then my the doctor said that my mom couldn't have kids either. She was very upset. But here i am today. She also had my sister so that makes two. And she concieved naturally. f you really can't there are options. If you have eggs you could try invitro or have them extract the egg, have it fertililzed, and have a surrogate mother give birth to your baby. They offer these services at hospitals and clinics but they are very expensive!

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    • TyLee
      12 years ago

      Sorry about the typos. I'm getting used to the mobile site which has many differences from the app. Auto-correct is one of them.

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  • joybird
    12 years ago

    I always try to think everything happens for the best, so perhaps you would've died in childbirth from a blood clot - as I almost did. Or there's a beautiful book called 'Embraced by the Light' which might help you think that there's a poor wee soul out there just waiting for you, to foster or adopt.

    I feel really sad for you as one of my friends had IVF to conceive. But, if it's any consolation she said that she cried loads of tears coz she couldn't have kids but cried 100 times more since she had them. She didn't realise how much hard work they would be :o(

    Life deals us all sorts of cards but try to lose the anger coz it just makes you bitter and ugly.

    Good luck with your future choices.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    It's normal.

    I'd be mad too if I could never have my own offspring but you can still give what matters most.

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  • alv1592
    12 years ago

    You sound like you'd be a good parent, when you're ready you should either adopt or find someone who's willing to be a surrogate mother. And I agree with a lot of what you said, it's sad how many bad parents there are. :(

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  • Shackleford96
    12 years ago

    I do not know exactly what your lady health issues are, but sometimes doctors can perform special procedures to extract an egg from you and manually fertilize it with a sperm. In Vitro fertilization is what it is called.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    That you can't have children
    ( sorry I dropped my iPod and it clicked sent before I was done)

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