Is it normal to be a 26 year old virgin male?

I have had a few chances to get laid, but I had terrible bouts of panic and was never able to relax. I like women, but I have very bad anxiety and despite many successful transitions in my life I am still so awkward around women.

There are excuses galore, but eventually it boils down to the fact that everyone I've ever met has had sex and has sex regularly when possible. There are probably very few virgins my age or older.

Is It Normal?
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  • I was in your situation. I lost my virginity at 26. I was desperate to lose it, and had sex with someone who, in retrospect, I wish I hadn't. I was in love with the possibility of finally losing my virginity, not with her.

    Don't do anything stupid just for the sake of losing it.

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  • I actually think it's beautiful and cute that you haven't lost your virginity yet. When I found out my bf wasnt a virgin it was a big bummer, but it's not like I expected him to be because of how guys are now a days. When you do get in a serious relationship it'll pay off because your gf will be SO appreciative of it so don't think on it too much (:

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  • Don't give into the pressures placed on society nowadays and don't rush into anything. When you personally feel that your ready then go for it :)

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  • Nothing wrong with it. I know tons of people who regret doing it

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  • Most of my friends lost it between the ages of 19 and 22, another person I know had just turned 25 and another is still a virgin at 27 - both women. A guy I know was nearly 30 when he lost it. Sometimes people just don't want to lose it to anybody but also don't want to get into a relationship, so time slips away and suddenly you're aware you're aging and haven't experienced certain things yet. What I think it comes down to is regretting the experiences you could be having, if you feel that way lose it to the next person you enjoy being around who cares about you, make sure they know before they take that from you, even if it's not serious, as long as there is mutual trust and respect and enjoyment, go for it. I'm the shyest, most introverted and anxiety-ridden person I know, yet I have somehow managed to do certain things, even have a long term relationship, which I never thought possible for me. You're still young but you're only young once, don't regret, it's no big deal after you do it and then you can enjoy continuing to do it and eventually find someone you really love to do it with, and there will be no panic or anxiety - or that may even cease with experience. It's pretty normal these days, this generation is a little more thoughtful and cautious. Mid 20s + virgins don't always own up to it. It is not impossible to find one, but don't let the "perfect person" thing outweigh you experiencing life. Good luck :)

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  • Lmao
    ...well the good news is that when and "if" you find that special girl she will be very happy to kno shes yoir first.
    kind of like the choice from buying a used or new car lol
    we always prefrer new but used is ok too.

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  • wait i just got so happy. im a 20 yr old virgin and everyone i know has done it already. i sometimes feel like im not normal or something but to know there are male virgins my age and older makes me happy...dont feel rushed its fine. the pieces will fall into place eventually.

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  • I was 26 when I lost my virginity (I'm a male). I had opportunities from the age 18 onward but never felt comfortable. Anyway I met a woman one night and we had a few drinks and ended up back at my place. She was going to drive home and I convinced her it was not a good idea after drinking. I asked her to stay and told her we would sleep in our cloths. We did that. Next morning we woke up and looked at each other then started kissing again. Wasn't to long before we were naked and having sex. I felt pretty guilty about it but then realized I was really attracted to her. I saw her two days later and apologized. She said what is past is past and we can't change it and that she was attracted to me. Within 14 months we were married and have been for the last 37 years. So no fear if you think you are "late". Sometimes it works out for the best.

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  • What level is your paladin

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  • I think it's normal but if you keep obsessing over it, then it's not normal.

    Also, you might be surprised at how many girls your age that still haven't had sex.

    You just gotta keep on looking. And when you find a girl that you won't feel panicky or awkward in front of---BAM---she's your girl.

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  • Yes it is totally normal, maybe not so common but definitely normal. It's actually refreshing to hear about a guy that's a virgin. Nothing to be ashamed about.

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  • If it helps, I'm a 32-year old male virgin. Frankly it bugs the hell out of me - it's not like I'm a monk or something. All my friends are married... but I just haven't met anyone special, and I'm not the type to hang out in bars or clubs for one night flings.

    At any rate, I don't know if the general world would consider it "normal", but you certainly aren't alone...

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  • I think its fine. I'm nineteen, female, not a virgin. But I would have waited if I didn't feel like my boyfriend was right for me. You seem like a nice guy. If you want to wait for the right person? Don't let some status quo pressure you into doing something you might regret.

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  • i suggest finding someone you really like and when you do take it slow and make sure like like you for who you are! im a girl and i took my best friend of 4 years' V card (he had a bit of problems at the start) but i totally understood the nervousness! the average person is nervous for the first time! i just reassured him! said i understand its all fine! couple minutes later things went well loll

    i say its normal-ish? :) if one of my friends told me a similar story i'd be like right on for self control!

    so right on for self control? :)

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  • i think its normal.....im a 22 year old male virgin

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  • It may not be normal in terms of being average, but there's nothing especially wrong with it. People place too much stock on whether you've slept with someone or not. When you realise that it really doesn't matter so much, perhaps some of the anxiety will be lifted.

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  • I don't mean to be mean and its not impossible for you to find a women your age and older, but I believe that your best bet is to find a woman who has already had sex and doesn't care whether or not you are a virgin. I know this probably sounds odd or weird or whatever but for me I find virgin men are very hot. I love their shyness and just thinking about a virgin guy turns me on. It is just so hot how a v guy gets turned on I can't help but blush. I miss the days when my bf would get that turned on. I guess that could be said about me too though. He did tell me that is how he felt. Here I will ask if this is normal since it applies to me and you can read the results. :)

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  • get a gf,have a relationship ad sex will happen later it doesnt really matter and its not a big deal

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  • There's a girl out there who is going to love being your first. Just tell her and shell be happy to go slow until you don't panic.

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  • Go to a prostitute

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    • Please don't. Not if your reasons are pressure from society to have lost your virginity. If you do because you are in deep need of sexual intercourse then please do not ever tell future partners. Be safe, get a medical check afterwards and then keep it for yourself. It can ruin your future relationships psychologically. Even if your partner wants to be accepting and reasonable about your past.

      I recommend being more active in meeting people so hopefully you could find a partner who you can relax with. I agree with many of the other commenters here that in general women appreciate virginity and like the idea of being the special person you waited for.

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  • love waitS

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  • Just make sure u don't hurt anyone in the process by acting like ur interested then instead of letting them know the problem is ur nervousness and not them. Can b a real ego crusher and we think we did something wrong by following ur advances. Just got my feelings super hurt by this from a guy. He could've told me and I would've been totally cool with it but he chose to bottle up and blow me off. And I had planned on doing the blowing LMAO

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  • hey i am 47 still a virgin and dont care. i dont think i am missing anything

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  • i`ll help u. u can loose ur virginity alone too by just doin a simple exersize. bend a little and try to suck ur own dick.. repeat it with 3 sets daily ... :p

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  • its not really 'normal', but its not that bad, i dont know wny people make such a big deal about whether people have had sex or not.

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  • i think it's normal, better to save it for ur special someone rather than a person ull end up running away from. I, on the other hand plan to be a virgin for my life :D.

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  • you are among friends, don't stress about who you are.

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  • Join one of those dating applications on Facebook then you can add them to your facebook and ask them to add you as their partner.

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  • Why do you panic? What are you scared of? Need more info.

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  • Yeah id say its abnormal.

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  • Why you waited so long and why you panic?Get over with it.its never late and dont think about it too much

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  • come out of the closet already

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