Is it normal that my girlfriend visits but prefer to visit her friends

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So I having been dating my girlfriend not for long only 3 months I know its not that much time, but that time is the time when couples don't want to leave each other hands. Anyway college started and she goes to a school out of town. She is visiting only because her friend is driving even though she has a car, but her friend would drive and return the next morning. When its labor day weekend extra time to drive back which is only a couple of hours away!! Also she tells me that no matter what she would still come next weekend, so I was completely fine. But now she tells me that she has plans for the whole weekend with her girl friends, not just visiting but going to frat party at my university!!! Did not even bother on asking me to go or nothing she just mention since she will be there she will stop by and check out my class. It is all confusing because we do have a good relationship when we see each other or talk on the phone, etc. But it just doesn't make any sense that since we are already apart and when we have the opportunity to be with each other a day or two she rather spend it with her girl friends. Maybe its because I have already told her the days that I would def. visit her no matter what happens, I dont know. please put helpful comments.

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  • PapzBSlim
    11 years ago

    I suggest that you give her a lot of distance and you yourself even more distance so you do not get hurt emotionally. You two are probably young and she seems to want to party more than a relationship. Girls like that usually want to see what is out there still. If I were you, I would not pick up every time she calls or even call back when you see her calling or see the missed call. When she sees that, she will either really miss you and want to see you or she will end the relationship. Start by never calling her unless she calls you and do not pick up the phone every time. Go out and have fun, you are in college and that is what she is most likely thinking. BTW, are her friends single? If they are, they are more than likely influencing her to go to party and not see you.

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    • Vitology
      11 years ago

      well there is the catch she has a roomate which she is single but does not go out to clubs or partys whatsoever and they known each other since they are young! her other friends are her cousin and his friends/roomates all guys, that does not make me happy at all because they all go in group together her being the only girl most of the time! But I do know that she is worth it, she keeps texting the whole she goes out telling she wants me to be there, etc. But then the deal is the story above when she has the opportunity to be with me she prefers her girlfriends

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      • MarcusP.
        11 years ago

        Give up on her your not on the priority list. Go out have fun like she is enjoy yourself your whipped, girls don't like wimpy whipped.

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      • PapzBSlim
        11 years ago

        Even more so if the friend is single and is not a club hopper. The friend is most likely lonely when she is not around and she makes her stay and spend time with her or your girlfriend feels guilty about leaving her alone. Maybe when she is out and texting you the whole time she is just entertaining you. I feel if she was serious about wanting you to be there, she would see you every time she got the chance or is in the area.

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    • Oh_Hai_There
      11 years ago

      I'd have to agree with everything you have said.

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  • FocoUS
    11 years ago

    Yeah I had the same issue when I was dating somebody from another college. "I'm coming over" didn't mean "I'm coming over to see you" That relationship didn't last long.

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  • qld37
    9 years ago

    Next!

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  • BrendioEEE
    11 years ago

    No its not normal odds are shes a ho dump her.

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  • JuliusE
    11 years ago

    This is classic. Your relationship won't last of she's in college and you're not. Not unless you both are REALLY loyal to her, which I highly doubt. Dump her ass and move on

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  • Oh_Hai_There
    11 years ago

    Dude, I feel for you. I haven't had this happen to me but it must SUCK. I can't really give you any advice seeing as I'm a senior in HS but I can tell you what it would be like if I were in that situation. I would probably miss the girl deeply.
    It was rude for her to do that, leave you behind so she could go get drunk and shit. Try talking to her about it. Tell her how you feel about it. If that doesn't work then I suggest that you let her go on her own for a bit. Give her some space. Honestly, I would need more info to have a definite opinion. So, if you could fill me in a bit more then I could help. :)

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    • PapzBSlim
      11 years ago

      He should definitely take your talking to her approach first, if not, he can fall back on my idea lol.

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