Is it normal that my face looks different to me all the time?

I have this weird conflict with myself where I believe I am beautiful yet ugly at the same time. I am a conventionally attractive 19 year old girl. I get complimented all the time and even went viral on tiktok multiple times strictly for my looks. I know deep down that I am attractive or I would not be validated to much. Yet I find myself hiding my face as soon as a camera is out. Every time my friends take pictures of me I look awful. I refuse to snapchat anyone with my full face and I am constantly seeking validation because I feel that I am ugly and everyone is lying to me. I often fantasize how I would look if I had plastic surgery but I can’t tell my friends because I am conventionally attractive enough to where they would think I’m fishing. I always think I am the hottest in the room and also the ugliest. I feel like I am arrogant and insecure all at once. My face looks different to me almost every day. It is constantly changing and deforms itself unless I am dolled up then I am perfect. Is this normal?

Is It Normal?
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  • Idk but dont get the plastic surgery. It always turns out bad you'll look like a monster. Idk why anyone ever does it.

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  • I feel that way often too and i'm by no means a beauty but I am conventially attractive. It's normal to have bad days where you feel you look horrible but really it's because your confidence is shit those days. Your face can change based on what you eat as well, or hormones. Like I tend to get acne before my period, and if you eat a lot of junk food or don't drink enough water it affects your skin and hair. Too little sleep and lots of stress (including stressing over your looks) makes a difference too.
    My advice is stop wearing makeup or only wear minimal makeup. When you're used to seeing yourself with lots of makeup you will think you're ugly without it. Since I started wearing minimal makeup I almost prefer myself that way now.
    Stop comparing yourself to influencers and other people with plastic surgery. Most people online, both men and women nowadays, use a ton of filters and editing. If i'm being honest when I see women outside I always find the ones that are all natural to be prettiest, but i'm a bit biased in that I don't find todays beauty standard to be attractive what so ever with the drag-like makeup that doesnt look good on anyone in real life. Just be yourself and focus on styling and hair. Beauty standards don't even fit everyone like a lot of people seem to think. Figure out what looks best with your features and skintone and then work with that.

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  • It’s really like self absorbed of you. I assure you that no one is that concerned about how you look. Ugly people exist. It’s ok.

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    • i know other ppl don’t care but when i was younger i wasn’t conventionally attractive and i was treated horribly in comparison. i don’t want to live the only life that i will ever have as average or leee than average

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      • Same here. I was definitely the ugly duckling. But now I have random strangers stop me to tell me I’m beautiful. I just don’t see it when I look in the mirror. And I also don’t care what I look like. 🤷🏾‍♀️

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  • I think you’re just struggling with the pressure of having to look pretty all the time. Don’t worry about it. The standards of beauty are unrealistic so there is no point in stressing over it. Obviously you are attractive so don’t obsess okay? And remember that in years from now you’ll be a wrinkly old hag. Beauty is fleeting so just try not to worry about your looks and focus more on your own self, like your heart.

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