Is it normal that i think that i'm ugly?

I've been jumping from site to site and I've been asking the same thing.

I've even shown photos of myself and I've gotten the same response.

Apparently people tell me I look normal some even say that I'm handsome, but I don't feel like I look Normal let alone handsome.

Most tell me that the only ugly thing about me is my negative mindset and I can see that being a thing.

I'm going to try and fix how I see myself.

But I just can't help but to feel that I'm ugly. Is this normal?

Is It Normal?
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  • I know this is really cliché, but "beauty is in the eye of the beholder". I haven't seen a picture of you so I can't form a solid opinion about your appearance, so I'm going to trust the opinions that those who know you who have said that you look normal, or even handsome. I think you should refrain from comparing yourself to other people. I don't know how much you are into social media, but perhaps it would behoove you to spend less time on social media.

    I also think that it's possible that you may be suffering from body dysmorphic disorder. I'm not a professional, and I don't know you so I can't say for sure, but there's a possibility. Also please don't do anything too drastic, or extreme to change your appearance. I think as long as you are clean, and neat you are probably doing just fine. If you are overweight, or out of shape it's a good idea to start working out, and if you have issues with crooked teeth it's okay to seek orthodontic treatment, but otherwise please don't seek to do anything like get plastic surgery until you have seen a therapist to rule out BDD. From what I've read in your post I'm willing to believe that you are fine, but probably judge yourself quite harshly.

    I hope you get to feeling better soon!

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  • It's not at all surprising in today's environment where people can be famous for no more reason than that they meet the current standards of beauty, and so many people on social media post only pictures of themselves that are filtered and posed to only show them at their best. You can be sure that the vast majority of those people look no better than you most of the time in real life.

    An "I'm ugly" mindset can actually make you less attractive, since it tends to make you slouch and skulk and scowl.

    Few people enjoy spending time with those who are totally self-obsessed and convinced that they're gorgeous, but it's also the case that not many like spending time with someone who's convinced they're an ugly, worthless sack of shit. Being with someone with a poor self-image is depressing, and it tends to make people wonder if there's something wrong with them for choosing to be with someone who doesn't value themselves. If you don't like yourself, why should anyone else?

    If people you don't know have told you that you're average or above-average in terms of attractiveness, you should be asking yourself why you have problems accepting that judgement. Why do you need to feel bad about yourself? What do you get out of that?

    Something else to bear in mind is that, while there's no shortage of shallow people in the world who are quick to judge others on their appearance, most people are so preoccupied with how they look and the image they're projecting that they really won't be paying all that much attention to how you look.

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  • Very normal way to think. Try to focus on the whole not specific areas. My lat development has ALWAYS lagged so bad but overall, I think I look great naked. Confidence is key!

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  • Alright, so I don’t think posting pics of u in the internet and exposing it as ur weakness is good anyways. Once u get negative responses u feel worse, u get good once and don’t believe them or get addicted. How I deal with it is avoiding mirrors and always wearing stuff so that I don’t start searching mistakes on ma legs or something. Not a solution, but maybe a start. Find something else to put ur energy into, maybe it’ll help ur self esteem too
    Try finding out why ur that self conscious and fight the thought when it comes, even if u just do it once and then fall back, try building it up slowly

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  • It's all about you and your self esteem. Why do you need others to prop you up?

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