Is it normal that i hate my parents?

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I've lived with my mother and stepfather for almost 6 years now. I'm going off to college soon and I can't wait to be away from them. My mother is manipulative and never admits when she's wrong. She always twists my words and plays the victim. I was pretty much raised by my grandma up to the age of 8 so I feel like I developed the bond you're supposed to have with a mother with her. My mother hates this so she does everything in her power to stop me from seeing her. My stepdad has always just been cold and critical to me ever since he married my mother. Every time I'm in the same room as him he brings up something I do wrong like the way I hold a fork or the way I walk. So for as long as I can remember I've hated them. I get so angry that I imagine killing them or myself or maybe both. Not that I would ever act out that particular fantasy. So is it okay that I wish they were dead?

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  • Boojum
    6 years ago

    Parents are people. Some people are messed up, sometimes because of how their parents treated them, sometimes because of other things.

    Some people should never become parents, but unfortunately you don't need to pass a test of a psychological evaluation to be one.

    Best thing you can do is learn what lessons you can from your mother and step-father (even if it's what parents should never do) and try to move on with your life.

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  • suckonthis9
    6 years ago

    There should be a Parent Exchange, whereby if you don't like the parents you have, you can trade them in for a better set.

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  • Pumpurrnickel
    6 years ago

    It's actually considered normal to fantasize on killing someone. Rage is a normal and healthy reaction to injustice. I would say you're normal. But when you actually start to plan out a murder, it's not normal at all.

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  • CRAPPUCCINO
    6 years ago

    I hate my parents too.

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  • SolarPriestess
    6 years ago

    Is it normal? Of course. Is it healthy...well that's questionable.

    If someone is treating you poorly it's only natural that you'd feel strongly against them, even go as far as hating them. Especially if you have to live with them everyday. That's like living with a constant parasite nearby. Very bad for you mentally and emotionally! Only completely natural you'd want a way out of that lifestyle.

    However it sounds like what you're dealing with between your mother and grandmother isn't something that will just go away with your moving out. This is something you may want to talk about or take action towards before leaving, as it may manifest itself in uglier ways in the future. Good luck!

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